I'm sorry I wasn’t more clear.
My message was intended to be empathetic and understanding.
I can see how it failed.
And I sincerely apologize to you for that fact.
What I was trying to articulate — very very very poorly — was exactly what you said back to me. That many people just think the answer is so straight forward, but it never really is that because the battle is so far up hill.
And I KNOW hard work and/or “harder” work IS NOT the answer. The answer is in a partnership or help, programs — a way out. We have to be responsive to one another, help each other because
There is no time machine.
The “bootstrap comment” was mockery and sarcasm — not directed at you — directed at people who might think the answer is really that simple. Because it isn’t. And no matter how much we wish it were, it isn’t.
Again, I sincerely apologize for not being more clear. My intent was to be supportive. Please let me know if anything in this message doesn’t feel right and I promise to work hard to listen to you until I get it right.