I have missed you!
This story is absolutely heartbreaking. And I knew you were smart. I knew you were determined. I knew you were fierce and grounded.
But this is beyond any of those things. You did more than follow advice, you even came up with your own ways to get what you wanted.
I am deeply sorry it didn’t work. I am even more sorry about how sharply it still hurts you. You worked so hard!
On a much smaller scale I can understand this perpetual “block” and the annoyance of the ‘advice-givers.’ It took me a year to find a job a single step up from where I was as an INTERNAL CANDIDATE.
People said they would help, they didn’t, people made the most ludicrous suggestions — really? I should set up a meeting and talk to the hiring manager? YOU DON’T SAY?!? I never would have thought of that on my own…
Anyway, it didn’t involve any of those hoops you had to jump through and it still was crushing to me. All the praise I got on every review, being identified as a “fast track to promo employee” did NOTHING for me.
I felt lied to, betrayed and trapped.
I feel I gave enough of myself and had earned what I was seeking. I watched promotions of people who were known incompetents all around me. It made me feel sick inside.
I cannot imagine your heartache. I wish I could hug you. You earned it, you probably worked harder to be there than any of the other candidates.
And who the fuck do they think they are making a decision like that FOR YOU? That’s not “mercy.” They treated you like a child.
Fuck those people!
Correct me, Creatrix Tiara. If I messed up this response and you don’t feel supported, I will fix it.
I really missed you.
-Cyborg