When there’s nothing to say, say nothing.

Highway to Happy.
Jul 21, 2017 · 2 min read

When someone close to us goes through a tragic loss we will do our absolute best to show our solidarity, support and shower them with as much love as we possibly can. When someone we love is grieving, our heart breaks, we are desperate to try and bring back joy to our loved ones life and we will say or do absolutely anything imaginable to get them to smile. We frantically google ‘what to say when someone is grieving’, become an online expert of the ‘so called’ grieving process and blurt out sayings randomly. We fire away words which sound comforting in our head and quickly transform into something that sounds ever so awkward as soon as those same words roll out of our mouth. And while there is no shadow of a doubt that our intentions are pure and our heart is in the right place, more often than not, we find ourselves putting our foot in our mouth and end up wanting to kick ourselves for not getting the reaction that we so desperately wanted to achieve.

The truth is, tragedy isn’t something you fix or make better, there are no words which will make the pain disappear. Our dark moments are as real, raw and true as our ecstatic moments of joy and we have to live through them believing in our heart of hearts that we are survivors and not victims.

Here’s what we CAN do.

So dear friends, when there’s nothing to say, say nothing. Don’t obsess and try to figure out what you can do or say to make things better, because there is absolutely nothing on this planet that can heal the feelings of pain. All you can do is sit with your dearest one, hold their hand, give them a hug and show them that you are right there by their side. Give them space, tell them that you love them, listen and respect that their adventure called life includes getting through a jungle of sadness which will eventually make them stronger than ever before.

When there’s nothing to say, say nothing.

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