Why Others Try to Shoot Down Our Ideas

We have all had moments where we were hit with inspiration, and thrilled with its possibilities, shared the idea with others. Yet instead of our enthusiasm being embraced, we’re met with doubt, we’re scoffed at, or sometimes we’re even downright insulted.

Being told ‘not to care what others think’ simply isn’t that easy.

What do you do when your ideas get shot down?

Naysayers are everywhere, but there’s a critical distinction to make when considering the reactions of others.

Before you let your ego roll around in judgy minutiae, let’s revisit what we’re doing as we engage in creative work: The creative process asks you to develop a new idea. It invites you to tap into your own style and voice, and then combine it with your inspiration to create a form of expression. This process in itself is a celebration of your individuality, your style, your voice, and the remarkable beauty that you have to share. Not everyone sees it this way, and they respond with salty remarks, skepticism, and doubt they fold neatly into packaging titled, “feedback”.

Aren’t they just looking out for you? Does their practicality serve you in the end? Shouldn’t we always consider others’ feedback?

You are able to derive value from critical feedback when you’re able to dissect judgement from perspective.

How might this work?

Can you hear the intention behind their comments? Can you hear what relates to your path as you create the work, and what might actually have nothing to do with it at all?

In this process, an interesting pattern unfolds: judgements often come in flavors of questioning the idea’s utility, sales viability, and (my personal favorite) drip with suspicion at your very audacity for entertaining something so grandiose.

In this session I discuss why it’s ok to be bothered by someone’s response, the anatomy of feedback, and how to keep your head straight when you’re approaching your next big project.

There is a nuance here: it’s not that we should avoid the perspectives of others, it’s that we recognize when an idea should be explored, always remembering that practicality comes in due time. A true artist and creative knows that inspiration comes as a concept. As the creative process unfolds, all the details flesh out, brick by brick, when the time is right.

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