Everything worthwhile in life takes time. Any attempt to escape the process can backfire. Epictetus says “No greater thing is created suddenly…
…long and was done every single day. Excuses that get in the way of habits cause us to lose control. We have to have discipline with everything we do and not become lazy with useless excuses.
…you’re not willing to change, then you aren’t committed to anything beyond what you currently have. If you don’t believe you can change, then you can’t commit to anything beyond what life randomly throws at you.