The problem with Dads caring for children tends to be a lack of interest and a lack of skill set. I used to teach parenting skills classes to expecting fathers. I do not remember a single father having the most basic skill set prior to the classes. The percentage of fathers taking these classes were very low when compared to the number of expecting fathers that were being served by this hospital. The class was free.

A lot of Dads tend to only answer five alarm fires. This means that the interaction between child and Dad is at a most basic level of barely meeting needs. Their primary activity is something else gaming, TV, etc. The baby is an afterthought that is tended when it is making lots of noise.

This is not all Dads. My daughter and I were attached at the hip from the moment of her birth. I know other really good care taking fathers. This is sadly, however, the way a lot of Dads either operate or would operate.

I am not anti-feminist. I just think that our children deserve better care than many ball cap backwards wearing f**k boy fathers are likely to give them. I think this is true for a significant number of 30 and 40 something men as well even if they only wear the ball cap on the inside now.

I think the issue you are facing is fundamentally a lack of reverence from men in general and specifically from professional men who have had women polishing their butts to a high sheen their entire lives. They look in the mirror and think themselves worthy because they have a naturally shiny rear end.