When we first met, our relationship had a messy start.

We met at a concert and hit it off immediately, but there was a catch. The day after our first date, he told me that he had a confession to make. He explained that he was still living with someone that he was in the process of disentangling with. They had been high school sweethearts, he said, but things had taken a turn for the worse over the last year or so.

I was concerned, but appreciated the honesty and wanted to give him the benefit of the doubt. …

Viral content moves in strange ways.

When I first started writing on Medium back in February, I had only a couple of claps each time I published a story. I looked at the stories which had thousands of claps and scoured them for inspiration. I admit that in some cases, I couldn’t work out what these stories had that mine didn’t. Was it luck, or something that I wasn’t seeing? I was beginning to lose any hope of ever making a single dollar from writing on Medium.

I decided to focus on getting published in some established publications. Even then, my published stories often seemed to…

I don’t need to say it. It’s been a tough week.

On top of the continued strain on physical, mental, and financial well-being caused by the COVID-19 pandemic, a fresh threat has reared its ugly head. The sad news of the passing of Justice Ruth Bader Ginsburg came on Friday evening and sent shudders down the spines of women across the country. My Twitter blew up with notifications. I have Jewish friends who took the news particularly hard, interrupting their Rosh Hashanah dinner to read panicked texts from friends and family.

Her passing is a bitter reminder of what a hard time it is to be a woman in America.

Ginsburg…

A lot of people are surprised when I share that I’ve never had a partner finish things with me. I suppose I’m a little surprised about it too. For whatever reason, no partner has ever told me that they didn’t want to be with me anymore, whether we were in a casual friends-with-benefits arrangement, or co-habiting with joint bank accounts. Some people say I’m lucky to have never gone through the heartache of being dumped, and perhaps that is true.

Just because I’ve never been dumped, it doesn’t mean that all relationships have ended on my terms; far from it…

There’s no way to dress it up — this summer is a really terrible time to be graduating. Ceremonies aren’t going ahead, celebrations are on hold, and the job market faces grave prospects due to the COVID-19 pandemic.

I feel a deep sense of sorrow on behalf of this summer’s graduates, and a lot of empathy too. Although I graduated in quite different circumstances, I can understand the sense of doom that many fresh graduates must currently be feeling. …

The concept of ‘wasting’ someone’s time has become ubiquitous. We talk about it at work when conference calls drag on for what seems like forever, or when someone trying to sell something stops us in the street. So, why not talk about the concept of having our time ‘wasted’ in dating?

I recently read an article about someone who sent invoices to previous partners for the time of hers that they had used. It might seem like a sassy power move, but actually it’s just a way to avoid accepting responsibility for having made poor dating decisions. I get the…

So you want to quit. You’ve likely been kept awake thinking over this decision for a few nights already, tossing and turning in the early hours of the morning weighing up the pros and the cons. But when the decision is made, how do you actually pull the trigger?

Here are three things to consider before you hand in your notice.

1. Know What You Want — And What Would Make You Change Your Mind

Most people who get as far as making an appointment to see their boss and entering his or her office with a resignation note tucked under their arm have already pretty well decided that they want to leave. …

Almost every thirty-something woman I know looks back on the dating of their twenties as something of a horror show.

It took me a while to figure out why this is such a common experience. “I had such bad taste!” one friend told me, genuinely mystified about why she continued to date guys who never made a lot of effort. She wondered why on earth she put up with weird avoidant behavior from a partner when she wasn’t even that invested in him. “The sex was ok and we had a nice time together, but it was never amazing. …