Damn, honey, if you’re not divorced, you should be. My ex was the same way. Get out while you can; this will NOT get any better no matter what the hell you do. When I finally had the guts to leave my marriage, I could barely hold a coherent thought, and thought so little of myself that everyone could (and did) walk over me. It’s taken years of therapy and different life experiences to heal myself. The porn was merely a symptom. The truth was that he despised me and all women, and probably still does. Cut your losses and get the hell out of there.