Preach! I dislike the seeming necessity of online dating like many others, but I rarely meet new people organically in my adult life, so online dating it is. Admittedly, I don’t have much success with it, and it could be because I do the same as you: I don’t filter my profile. I am who I am, and I’ve grown comfortable in my own skin these last several years. I refuse to dilute my personality for short-term success at the cost of long-term compatibility. I throw my core interests and passions out in the beginning in such a way that I hope also reveals part of my personality, and — assuming I’ve successfully done so — if any of that is a deal-breaker for a potential partner-to-be, then it’s not worth either of our time to try something we both know deep inside won’t work.

I do wish there were more women like you, though. I will admit a bit of shallowness in myself, and I believe it’s important to find a partner physically attractive in addition to emotionally attractive (but that part comes later, obviously). It’s important to me. However, most profiles I encounter of attractive women are so bland and generic that I could probably write a small program that randomly generates their profile texts. Those texts give me nothing substantial to open a conversation with, so frankly, I rarely do.

TL;DR: what “Matt” calls intimidating, I call interesting. Please don’t compromise that.