I’m really into making jewellery, I’ve sold it in the past but now just make it as a constructive way to spend evenings so that I’m not tempted to put in a 14 hour day in Scrivener (writing software) like a sad old workaholic author. Workaholics are as boring as alcohol addicts, believe me, I’ve been both and I don’t want to go back to either.
I’m not suffering any temptation to drink in the evenings at the moment and I believe one of the reasons is I make sure I’ve always got something to do every evening. I think a practical way to “focus on recovery” is not to sit there alone thinking about drinking and thinking about recovering from being an alcohol addict, but to actually use your time constructively doing things and thinking about things which don’t involve drinking. Even talking about drinking on the net, although invaluably helpful, can also be addictive in itself and I think it’s a positive thing to spend time focusing on activities which have absolutely nothing to do with drinking at all. It’s no good replacing “being obsessed with drinking” by “being obsessed with not drinking”, it’s good to move away from it, otherwise “not drinking” becomes the new “drinking”. But a little reminder of how far you’ve come is not a bad thing in my opinion.
One lovely piece of jewellery you can easily assemble for yourself if you want to celebrate the days, weeks, months or years since you became sober, is a sobriety bracelet. I don’t like wearing brand names, all it means is that you’re paying a company to advertise their products (ever thought about it that way?) So I deliberately avoided buying a Pandora bracelet and instead bought a far cheaper but nevertheless sterling silver snake chain bracelet from eBay and loads of non-branded glass beads (some of which I bought from China, but have no fear, if the seller’s rating is good the purchases should arrive in due course, don’t forget that most of our manufactured goods now come from China, for better or worse.)
I’ve now got a big selection to choose from, I add another bead for every week I’ve been sober and change them around all the time. They clink and clank on my workbench when I’m writing which is a constant reminder of how well I’m doing not drinking, and other people admire them. I don’t always tell people it’s a sobriety bracelet as I’m not always in the mood for the same tedious barrage of questions interrogating the freak about why she doesn’t drink like every normal person.
But sometimes I do tell people about it. And if they’re interested enough, I tell them about the site Soberistas which inspired me to escape my alcohol addiction.
You never know where things will lead, or how many lives may become changed or saved by one little action. I can’t recommend a sobriety bracelet highly enough. It’s part of me now.