Dream Girls and Comfort Zones

Maverick_III
Jul 30, 2017 · 8 min read

On the display of my smart phone I had the same thing up for some years. It goes into one of the main things I along with most of the population struggles with. I also believe that along with mental toughness is what separates 90% of the planet from most of the people that earn most of the money and are most successful. What I have on my lock screen is just one powerful sentence. Life begins at the end of your comfort zone. That is all. Below is a story about that. Its a personal one that happen not too long ago.

The Coffee Shop

It wasn’t the best day. I only been in business for short time, there was an equal amount of love hate and frustration. I hadn’t hit any of the numbers I wanted to hit and I was thinking I am going to go broke. Why should I be doing this? I am no good. I should just go back and sign up for another 10 years in the military. There is no hope for me in this. I found myself at my local coffee shop. The book I had in my bag was one from Tony Robbins. It talked of mastering my emotional states. Obviously there was a reason I was reading this. At that exact moment I was nothing short of a wreck. I was at this establishment for about an hour at this point reading that book. I was making an emotional comeback, and it felt good.

The whole time I was reading this book I couldn’t help but look at this one girl there. She was about five feet five inches tall, blonde hair, and was shaped nicely. She was wearing jeans that ended 6 inches shy of her ankles, a designer tank top with buttons, hoop ear rings and brown flip flops. If I had to guess she had to be in her early to mid 20’s and she was gorgeous. Granted I see beautiful women all day, I live in southern California after all but she was different. It looked like she wasn’t going anywhere for a while, my guess is she was doing school work, she had a laptop out a notepad and book. I made up in my mind i wasn’t going to leave there without talking to her. I made my mind up since I didn’t have a win all day she was going to be my win. So I finished the chapter in my book, came up with what I was going to say, made a little pile of all my things and stood up to leave. The plan was to talk to her on the way out. what I didn’t anticipate was my nervous bowel movement coming right on queue. So instead of walking towards her I made my way to the restroom.

The Approach

While I was sitting down and letting nature run its course I realize for me to win in this situation and in life in general I need to go into it with an attitude like I am a champion. I am a gladiator. I bring the heat. If I go in with any other mentality I won’t have chance of winning. The problem with that is even though I fall off and on winning is what I do. I AM A CHAMPION! So I left the bathroom walked right up to her. Don’t get me wrong I was still nervous but I have the rest of my life to feel that way. I will win now, was my mentality. I said “hello” she looks up to me with a confused face at the same time she pulls the headphones out of her ears. I say to her “I wanted to let you know that I have been walking around all day and I had to say you are the most beautiful woman I seen all day” the whole time I kept my vibe upbeat and pushed the fear down her eyes pop open the confused look vanished and was a look of a mixture of surprise and enjoyment she started laughing too. Her reply while still laughing was “ha-ha thank you ha-ha!” at that point the fear went down by half but I knew I still had work to do so I kept going. “Also I can tell your ambitious I mean you are here on a Sunday night studying” her laughter stopped a bit but the smile stayed. “ha-ha thank you, you are just so sweet!” now that she is on the ropes I had to finish. I said “ here is the deal I am not saying to day or tomorrow but can I take you out for dinner?” she looks around and shrugs her shoulders as if she doesn’t have a choice in this matter and says “Sure! ha-ha Sure! Why not! do you want my number?” “Yes, I’ll take it” I gave her my pen and a information flyer I was using as a book mark. She writes her name and number on it and looks up laughs again and asks “What is you name anyway ha-ha?” “I’m Horus whats yours?” “Megan” I take the card and continue to say “I’ll call you tomorrow. I don’t text when I first meet someone. She nods her head and says “I like that”. I smiled turned then left. As I was waking to my car I was on cloud 9! I was about two blocks from my car when I saw an older gentleman walking with is wife. I walk up to him with arms extended like I was going to hug him and said “Hey brother I need a hug.”he does it and asks “why” “just straight up jumped out my comfort zone and asked out the prettiest girl I seen in a while. She said yes too.” It was a short embrace and him along with his wife laughed a little as I showed them the number she wrote on the card. He says “ha-ha alright young brother don’t lose that what ever you do” “don’t worry I wont” we parted ways and I walked to my car. As I drove off I made sure to drive past the coffee shop and she was still sitting there. I just said out load in my car alone “YES!!!”

Even Further In The Past

I was at my office. The head honcho, the guy that made the most money and helped out the most people in southern California was giving us training. Among other things he said we should all create vision boards. I said in my head “this old guy is nuts I’m not doing that”. I’m pretty sure it was about 3 weeks later and I had military patrol. My version of that was I sat in an office for 24 hours and listened for the radio or telephone to go off. In those times when those things weren’t happening I was free to do what ever. It goes without saying that if you don’t have something planned already you will get bored. I decided then to just go with making the vision board. I cant deny that as I got into it I started to have a lot of fun. Just imagining what was possible and begin a kid again with using scissors and glue was a blast! It was so many things on there that I don’t have time to go into it but one thing I do want to touch on is I put up who I thought would be my dream girlfriend. I decided on the model from the UK Iskra Lawrence.

The Days After I Met Megan

I call the girl up and get no response. I text her too, same thing. I wait three day, no change. I decide to wait a week and no change either. A bit later I was on Facebook and I decided to upload my contacts Megan’s profile pops up. I look through her pictures a little and the strangest thing happens. I have to go to my vision board to make sure but Megan looks extremely similar to Iskra Lawrence. I even go as far as to look up more of her picture and the more I dig the more similar she looks. I am blown away.

Present Days And Lessons From It

This day and age I upgraded my vision board from a small hand held one to something much bigger. I call it my dream wall. I have a spare bedroom in my apartment and among other things I dedicated an entire wall in their to this. most people would consider me not being able to take Megan on a date a loss. I actually agree with them. But through that I made a major win. My belief is in life it isn’t about what you accomplish it is about how you feel about yourself how you contribute and most importantly the person you become. Its also extremely important to not fear failure. The days of me being a overweight scared of the world kid is over. I more or less do what ever I want now. I keep Megan’s number on display because I consider that a huge triumph. The things I tell myself is it doesn’t matter how many times you fall its about how many times you win. Michael Jordan missed plenty of shots in his career but people remember the 7 championship rings instead of him failing. Since then I have done things more and more outside of my comfort zone and it feels great.

One last thing i really wanted to pass on by posting this story is the importance of breaking free and doing the uncomfortable things. I would like everyone that took the time to read this to think back when u talked to that one girl or networked with that one person that lead you to something great. Now i want you to think of how uncomfortable you were doing it. Really think back to how much your life has changed for the better because you did that uncomfortable thing. Doesn’t that feeling make you happy and excited? I can’t speak for you but I am excited to talk to the prettiest woman in the room. I am excited to try to bring the most successful person I can think of to my business. Yes I get more rejections than anything but I don’t remember the losses I remember the victories. That being said, I still learn from the losses and change my game around but if you don’t break free and challenge yourself even going after the easiest competition will be unbearable. This may sound crazy but the big losses lead me to mediocre victories. At a later time in life I know I will lose at things on a massive scale. That will lead me to big victories.

As funny as this sounds i don’t even remember much about the horrible day I had before I met Megan. In the grand scheme of things it doesn’t matter. All the people that rejected me that day loss out. If the story above was made into a scene the people that turned me down would be like flat characters or extras in a sitcom. No one even remembers them.

You are the main charter, the hero and director of your life. Flat charters or extras that decide not to be in it missed out. Stop putting all this importance on them. Three months from now you aren't going to remember them anyway.

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