From Drained to Radiant: Practical Steps to Rid Yourself of Energy Drains

We human beings need energy to grow, expand and increase the quality of our lives. To be energetic, we need to learn how to have energy, but also to learn how to sustain this energy by protecting ourselves from energy drainers.

To have energy and vitality, you must understand two things: first, what gives you energy and second what drains your energy

In this article, I will focus on eliminating negative energy that weighs you down through an exercise I call “Declutter the Garden of Your Soul”. In the future, I will talk about how to have energy and vitality.

The exercise will help you cleanse your body from negative energy and protect yourself from the energy drainers that surround you. Let’s get started.

There are five action steps I would encourage you to take to protect yourself from energy drainers.

1. Declutter your house

You may not be aware of this, but there are things in your house that drain your energy. To get rid of those negative energies, I would ask you to do the following:

First: Get rid of any item of clothing or accessory that drains your energy. You may have a pair of jeans that you hate because they are too tight or a pair of shoes that hurt your ankle, and so on. Either sell them, give them away or throw them away. They will continue to take up space, time and energy in your mind unless you get rid of them.

Second: Go around the house and put aside any object that drains your energy. It could be a table that you hate, a teaspoon or a pillowcase. Whatever it is, just get rid of it. Again, sell it, give it away or throw it away.

Third: have a look at the colours in the house. It is really important to learn how to choose and match colours wisely, because there are certain colours that bring negative energy to your house and make you feel uneasy or less comfortable.

Please note: All I have talked about is personal stuff. If you share anything with anyone in the house or anything that is not yours, please discuss the subject with them before taking any further action.

2. Complete the incompletion

These are the kind of things that you have made a decision to do but you haven’t done them yet or you got started but you haven’t completed them yet.

For example: You’ve been saying all week that you want to visit your mum but you still haven’t done it, so do it. You promised someone you would do something for them but you haven’t done it yet, so do it. You want to call someone to apologise for a mistake you have made, so do it. If anything in your mind distracts you because you are postponing it, do it.

3. Be the guardian of your own mind

Meaning, protect yourself from any negative thought that comes into your mind because of something you see or hear. Be selective. There is a concept in psychology called Selective Attention. Basically selective attention dictates that whatever you focus on, you create more of. If you want to protect yourself from negative energy, then stay away from listening to the news on TV, stop watching horror films, or videos about violence, or anything that makes you feel bad.

I stopped watching TV in 2011. Now, if I want to watch anything I watch it on the internet and I use my laptop. I am very selective, I only listen to or watch things that inspire and help me to grow and expand to fulfil my mission and purpose.

4. Befriend your physical body

Some people are just their own self enemy. They consume unhealthy and harmful things that drain their energies, things like junk food, sugary drinks, too much alcohol, smoking, doing drugs and so on. If you really want to have energy and vitality, then it’s time to take care of your health and protect yourself from all those energy drainers.

5. Relationships

First: Protect yourself from any negative energy that drains you because of any conflict with your parents, your siblings or any other family members. Figure out what it is and be open about it to have a conversation with them. It could be a rule or a certain belief that you don’t like but they want you to obey and follow, or maybe a certain type of bad treatment. Whatever the problem is, you need to solve it.

Second: Your intimate relationship with your partner, if you are in a relationship with someone. If your relationship drains you because you have an issue with your partner, it is important to fix it. You might need to have an open conversation with them, you might need some help, or you might need to end it.

A few years ago, I coached two married female clients. They were from two different countries and two different cultures. They both told me that their husbands were just like their brothers, and one of them said that she hadn’t made love with her husband for five years while they used to share the same bed. Imagine: what kind of relationship is that? One of them ended her relationship and found a new partner but the second one chose to stay in her relationship for personal reasons.

Third: Your relationship with your friends. If any of your friends drain your energy in any way, set boundaries with them as soon as possible. Be open about that and tell them what is allowed and what is not. If they don’t respect your personal boundaries, limit or end your relationship with them, not just on social media but in your real life too.

Once you have done all the tasks mentioned above you will feel lighter and more in control. You will have more self-awareness of how to control your mind. You will lead yourself and your life more effectively. You will start to love and respect yourself more and more and this will become a habit to create more room for personal growth, health and vitality.