Should men pay on first date?

HowtoWhere
Aug 27, 2017 · 2 min read

In 1950’s, 80’s or even in 90’s who pays on first date was not even the question. It was simple, the man pays. Gender lines have blurred since then. Women are more financially well off and independent. Men are now allowed to be more emotionally open. This is Ofcourse a good thing. When it comes to dating, the gender norms are still intact but quickly changing. Are we ready to rewrite the dating rules more apt for 21stcentury? Is it the right time for old tradition to change when a woman was considered the property of man?

There are two aspects at work here- financial and emotional. Lets analyze these financial and emotional factors of dating from both men and women point of views-

First- It’s the tradition- Man pays.

Common, women have been fighting for more than a century against patriarchy and male chauvinism. We can’t let the old tradition of ‘man pays’, let us bogged down. The tradition was established at a time when women were not allowed to work, and couldn’t pay for themselves. Women are now much more capable of opening the doors, pulling the chair and putting a credit card on the table.

Second- It might hurt ego of the men.

When we first look at this argument, it sounds valid. As we dig deeper, the pre-assumption of men having such a big ego, that a woman offering her fare share of meal is hurtful to them feels awful. This is something women should think about more seriously. It is the man right for her? What are his views on women being independent? Does he like to be in traditional relationships or egalitarian one?

Everybody likes to be treated, including men. In the current age of Tinder, OKCupid and PlentyofFish going on dates frequently and paying every time can be a lot expensive. It’s okay for men to find it okay and go dutch.

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Originally published at www.howtowhere.com on August 27, 2017.

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