Descriptive, Not Prescriptive.

“Hustle is bad. You need balance.”

“Hustle isn’t a four-letter word. It’s all about the hustle!”

“You need to give clients value before they’ll pay you.”

“Never give away your best stuff! Value your worth.”

“If you swear in your messaging, people will be distracted and won’t hear what you have to say”

“You need to be authentic! Show up in your marketing the same way you do in real-life. Let those f-bombs fly!”

“It’s all about mindset!”

“It’s all about doing the work!”

“It’s all about having the right strategy!”

“It’s all about them connecting with your brand!”

“it’s all about showing up authentically!”

“Model the routines of the successful and you’ll become successful yourself.”

“Never look to what other’s are doing — find your own path”

I spent 10 minutes online tonight and saw every one of these messages.

It’s no wonder we are so fucked up.

It’s not my job as a coach to be prescriptive.

It’s not my job as a coach to tell you what’s right or what’s wrong.

It’s not my job to convince you why this way is better than that way.

It’s my job to take the place of a leader and to guide you to find your own answers.

Its my job to be descriptive. To tell stories or describe the experiences of others that will help you guide your own compass.

To ask intense questions that will expand your world far beyond any advice that anyone could ever give to you.

It’s not my job to make you faster — it’s to help you see further.

It’s not my job to tell you what to think.

It’s my job to help you reframe what’s holding you back.

I’m not my job to heal your wounds.

It’s my job to help you unlock your higher calling and un-lived life.

This is the game I play as a coach.

xoxo Heather

PS — Most coaches play the prescriptive game. That’s totally cool, it’s just not what I do. If you’re feeling a HELL YES feeling after reading this and are curious, Message me on Facebook and let’s start a connection. Maybe we become best friends. Maybe I open you up to this world of coaching so that you can explore it. Maybe I support you on your journey. I don’t know what it will look like, but I do know that I collect relationships and I want you to be one of them.

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