The Problem With Feeling Entitled

C. Hunter
C. Hunter
Aug 23, 2017 · 3 min read
Photo taken at Mint Museum in Charlotte, NC

I’m doing a double post today, as I don’t know when I’ll be posting again this week.

Recently, I’ve had to come to terms with the fact that some of the biggest fall outs I’ve ever had have been with individuals who have felt “entitled”. Whether in business or my personal life and strangely it’s always been someone I’ve been close to. When I figured everything out it all seemed to unravel when someone started feeling some type of way and wanted their way so they began to turn against me.

Each time I’ve left feeling really hurt and confused. What’s even more interesting is that they were also people whom I would do anything to help.

At this current stage in my life, I’ve started to adapt a “no nonsense” approach to my personal life (honestly in general) and to some it may make me seem a little callous. Like “Sweetheart I can’t give you what I don’t have. Better yet invite you in a room that I’ve been invited into myself.” I think it kinda eases the blow in certain situations when you let people know I don’t have the time for the nonsense.

You’d be amazed at the extent people go to make themselves feel important. Friends don’t compete with each other. At least real friends don’t compete. I find it really unhealthy when you can’t even grow older and hang around the people who once occupied a great portion of your life because of some feeling. No real reason to do anything dirty. Just a feeling that they deserved better. And while I’m on this road… Let me address the men and women who chase after another persons significant other, intentionally. (*I’ve been accused of this but have never done it.)

First, your friends spouse or boyfriend/girlfriend whatever should be off limits! I don’t care if it’s an ex or not. Some things should just be off limits. Just because you see him treating her well doesn’t give you the right to insert yourself. This is just one of many examples of when friends change on you. I have experienced a few dilemmas in these areas myself.

Definition via Google.

Hopefully by now you get my point. The problem with feeling entitled is that those who do, usually do so at the expense of someone else. If I can’t be myself and enjoy the things I’ve been blessed with, the people who love me or even just be around my close family/friends/acquaintances without someone having a problem then someone has to go and it won’t be me. It’s also what prompted one of my previous post advising everyone to protect their life (read here).

People work hard at work or at school and on their relationships. They don’t need any of that extra stuff from someone who has no idea of the price they’ve paid. Some people are just bold.

Hope this helps someone!

CH

*This post edited since bring published.

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