The ‘American dream’ is about pulling yourself up by the bootstraps, forging your own path out of poverty and insignificance, building something that emblazons your name in lights, and most of all, creating wealth. The American dream is revered by immigrants — in this land of opportunity, we too can become something. It’s entirely up to us.
The American dream embodies what individual success looks like — it is centered on one person making a name for themselves. There is a focus on materialism and the acquisition of possessions. …
When my brother and sister-in-law got engaged, my mother worried that his in-laws-to-be would be turned off by his height. My brother is shorter than his now-wife.
This trope is reinforced in various aspects of life. Shorter women that are many inches shy of their husbands’ heights boast about being able to wear heels whenever they want — as high as they want.
It’s puzzling. If their husbands were shorter, would they be condemned to a lifetime of flats in order to not upset the delicate balance between the genders?
My husband is only a couple of inches taller than me — and I’ve never feared calf-elongating four-inch stilettos. In fact, I wear them proudly while my husband and I pose together on the red carpets we sometimes find ourselves on, heads held high. And no — we don’t look awkward or out of sync or jarring to the eye. …
A colleague missed a deadline and caused a project delay at work. Your spouse forgot to set the alarm before leaving the house. A friend forgot about the after-work dinner date you had scheduled months before.
It is natural to feel frustration and to cast blame on the other for being lazy, flaky, or unreliable. But when you allow yourself to feel this way, you also create stress for yourself.
If the person that has dropped the ball is someone you know well, would it not be easier — for both of you — if you approached the situation from a place of radical acceptance? …
One afternoon, my cousin, Sarah, and I were walking to a local beauty salon that was located ten minutes from my parents’ house. The salon was located at the end of a wide dirt road that bordered the residential neighborhood where we lived.
Sarah and I were strolling and chatting without a care in the world when a man caught our attention. He was seated in his car, a short distance away, waving at us, trying to beckon us over.
Thinking that he may be lost and looking for direction, Sarah and I made our way over to him. …
The calendar has turned. The Christmas tree has been taken down. The much-awaited arrival of 2021 is now in the rearview mirror. Champagne has been popped and the empty bottles abandoned in the desolation of the garbage bins behind your house.
But alas — nothing has changed.
We are still battling the pandemic. Daily news still echoes with screaming headlines about case counts, numbers dead and in hospital, ICU capacity, and now a new strain that has bared its teeth to ravage the world.
Will we ever get through this?
We spent Christmas Facetiming with our families while eating our sad little dinners for two. Christmas trees were sold out weeks before the holidays, snapped up by disappointed families with stymied plans to spend the cold, wet season in warmer, faraway lands. …
Companies want loyal employees. Loyal employees are more engaged and more committed to the success of the company. But as an employee, you can take loyalty too far, to the point where it goes against your self-interest.
If you’re looking for career growth, putting all your eggs in your company basket isn’t a great idea because it’s a crowded basket. There are likely many other eggs there.
Can you be certain that you will get picked when the next plum opportunity comes up?
You may have worked on a career plan with your manager that lays out a series of next steps. However, there is undoubtedly more than one shining star in your company’s talent pipeline. Despite the best-laid career plans, when a job opportunity comes up, you need to be the best candidate. …
I was living life on autopilot. My job felt rote; I was bored. I had stopped learning. One day blended into the next. I felt stuck and unable to work on my passion, writing, or my side hustle, professional speaking.
I was snacking incessantly throughout the day. After losing 30 lbs on the keto diet, my weight loss had stopped. But more importantly, I felt out-of-control with food. And then there was the isolation of the global pandemic.
I read countless articles about how to circumvent the bleakness of lockdown. I went for walks — but felt unable to do it consistently. Although I live in downtown Vancouver by a beautiful seawall adorned with mountains and crisp, blue water, and dotted by fresh foliage, I found myself unmotivated to venture outside. …
When I was younger, vanity was my motivation. I wanted to wear beautiful clothes and be noticed by boys. As I got older — and took myself off the market through my wedding vows — I became more concerned about attaining optimal health.
Don’t get me wrong. I still aspire to strutting about in small, finely tailored designer clothes. But as I get closer to 40, I am more concerned about staying mobile, building endurance, and preventing disease.
I see older people in their 60s and 70s— including my own parents — developing health problems due to a lifetime of poor eating habits. You can try to right the ship in the sunset of your life — but there’s only so far you can move the mast at that time. …
After my realtor posted it through our local multiple listing service, it was re-posted across the local net by various eager real estate agents.
A few days later, I started receiving brochures in the mail from moving companies.
At first, I was confused. How the heck did they find out so fast that I was planning to move? I felt uncomfortable and spied upon.
And then it struck me — they track online real estate listings to identify warm leads. Of course! If you’re a moving company, wouldn’t you do the same?
If someone has listed a home for sale, chances are that they are planning to move. Even if the home is an investment property and occupied by renters, they may still need your services if the new owner asks them to vacate. …
These include political leanings, religious affiliations, sexual orientation, cultural background, and marital status.
The intent is to eliminate potential biases from hiring and, of course, to keep things professional. Our workplace laws and regulations in Canada protect candidates from discrimination based on factors that have nothing to do with their ability to perform the duties of the job.
Sadly, this isn’t the case everywhere in the world.