Book Review “tuesdays with Morrie”

A book about a Professor , diagnosed as ALS a neurological disease, left few months to live as there is no cure to disease, one of his student visits him every Tuesday where the Professor talks about different aspects and great lessons of life.

a) Forgiving : Forgive yourself before you die. Then forgive others There is no point in keeping vengeance or stubbornness. It’s not just other people we need to forgive. We also need to forgive ourselves.
For all the things we didn’t do. All the things we should have done. You can’t get stuck on the regrets of what should have happened. That doesn’t help you.

b) Death : Everyone knows they’re going to die, but nobody believes it. that. Once you learn how to die, you learn how to live. It’s natural to die.
The fact that we make such a big hullabaloo over it is all because we don’t see ourselves as part of nature. We think because we’re human we’re something above nature We’re not. Everything that gets born, dies So love each other .Death ends a life, not a relationship.

c) Family : There is no foundation, no secure ground, upon which people may stand today if it isn’t the family. It’s become quite clear to when you are sick and If you don’t have the support and love and caring and concern that you get from a family, you get nothing.
There is no experience like having children. There is no substitute for it. You cannot do it with a friend. You cannot do it with a lover. If you want the experience of having complete responsibility for another human being, and to learn how to love and bond in the deepest way.

d) Fear of Aging : As you grow, you learn more. If you stayed at twenty-two, you’d always be as ignorant as you were at twenty-two. Aging is not just decay It’s growth. It’s more than the negative that you’re going to die Accept who you are revel in that , find what is true.

e) Money : We put our values in the wrong things. And it leads to very disillusioned lives Money is not a substitute for tenderness, and power is not a substitute for tenderness.
When you most need it, neither money nor power will give you the feeling you’re looking for, no matter how much of them you have You will never be satisfied by more and more money but by giving concern, time and offering to others.

f) Love : And love is how you stay alive, even after you are gone Love is the only rationale As long as we can love each other, and remember the feeling of love we had, we can die without ever really going away.
All the love you created is still there. All the memories are still there. You live on–in the hearts of everyone you have touched and nurtured while you were here Love is when you are as concerned about someone else’s situation as you are about your own.

g) Marriage : Friends are great, but friends are not going to be here on a night when you’re coughing and can’t sleep and someone has to sit up all night with you, comfort you, try to be helpful. In this culture, it’s so important to find a loving relationship with someone.
Because so much of the culture does not give you that. the poor kids today, either they’re too selfish to take part in a real loving relationship, or they rush into marriage and then six months later, they get divorced. They don’t know what they want in a partner.

h) Culture : The culture we have does not make people feel good about themselves. We’re teaching the wrong things. And you have to be strong enough to say if the culture doesn’t work, don’t buy it. Create your own.
Big things how we think, what we value–those you must choose yourself. You can’t let anyone–or any society determine those for you.

i) A Perfect Day : Get up in the morning, do exercises, have a lovely breakfast of sweet rolls and tea, go for a swim, then have friends come over for a nice lunch. Talk about their families, their issues, talk about how much we mean to each other. go for a walk.
In a garden with some trees, watch their colors, watch the birds, take in the nature In the evening, all go together to a restaurant with some great pasta, maybe some and then we’d dance the rest of the night. I’d dance with your partner out there, until you exhausted.