Winning the people

Behavioural sciences are a difficult discipline to master due to the complexity and ever-changing nature of behaviour. There is no rule-binding and the science must answer everything that comes its way with already existing logic or some new phenomenon.

We know a great deal about the richest people of the world because it is a quantifiable thing but never know about the ‘friendliest people of world’. If riches can be quantified by the dollars in the bank account or the worth of one’s real estate, there is very little we can say about the ‘sociable’ traits of people. For people are different and if I prefer my friends to be calm and sober, some would want people around them to be lively and joyful.

“What interests people?” is dynamic and not bound by rules

Dale Carnegie in his famous How to Win Friends and Influence People (Part 2) is all about being as kind as possible. He quotes some famous examples like Theodore Roosevelt and Thurston (The Magician) who became popular among people (irrespective of their professional fate).

I mostly try to go the ‘kind way’ especially while interacting with strangers. Perhaps, this is the reason that I have very few enemies (I am being generous, I have none). But, I do not have many friends either. And I regard the society that I live in, responsible for it. Most of the people I have seen in university life are sceptical, always looking for the conspiracy behind a smile, looking for answers.

I have made good relationships with some of my fellows just because I liked some of their traits very much and I, uncharacteristically, let them know that they were good people. A couple of very ‘good’ friends are completely the product of my ‘interest in them’. While there are people who, despite my kindness and care towards them have shrugged this off being cynical, we should focus on the people that we can potentially befriend.