We cannot be certain of much.
Only when the vast majority shares the same experience, we establish it as a fact and try to prove our assumptions of it, as we did with gravity and the theory of existence.
Still, what we believe to be true varies from person to person and culture to culture.
While you may think the most attractive women are well-trained, people in certain areas of Africa and the South Pacific would strongly disagree. This continues with everything from what sport you might think is the most exciting to what food you think tastes the best. The world is made up of binary systems, constantly agreeing and disagreeing.
Here, if we feel strongly about the belief, ignorance often leads us to claim that everyone who disagrees with us is wrong, but we have to understand that absolutely everything is subjective. Your experience of life and the thoughts you create along the way are unlike any other’s, therefore no matter how cultured you are or how well you think you know somebody, you can only have somewhat of an idea of why they believe what they do and how they see the world. With that emerges the concept of subjective truth.
The truths you decide to focus on take a tremendous part in shaping your reality. Is your first association of social media the downfall of society or that it plays a key factor in globalization? Everything, literally everything has its ups and downs, but what you choose to put more weight on is your own decision.
It seems we have grown numb to all the positives we wake up to every single day. Terror attacks and natural disasters happening far away from us, often trigger that important reminder of how fortunate we are to simply have the opportunity to enjoy life, but it fades away as soon as we find some little thing to complain about.
The foundation of most our decisions seems to lie in the belief that it will benefit us in some type of way — mentally, economically, physically etc. — and thereby bring us one step closer to our subjective truth of happiness, even if it’s temporary.
When we feel provoked into a frustrating discussion, we mainly create negative assumptions of the others intentions. This is the main issue. We simply have no idea. All we can do is make assumptions. If those are based on the good or evil in the other is all up to you. Then, if you are completely sure the other’s intentions were purely made to benefit them and harm you, it is up to you to decide how much it matters.
We react negatively to what we define as negative in our subjective truth, but no matter how harming the situation might be, all it is, is an inconvenience for us to reach our personal happiness. When you lose your home during a tornado, your life goes on, but the fact that you do not have access to all the utilities you believe are needed in order to achieve whatever you define as happiness, is incredibly inconvenient. That is also the reason, most outdoor-people are sad when it rains. It is temporarily inconvenient.
Of course, losing a home is an extreme, but even in the worst cases we should never stop looking for the good in life. The proud pessimists will judge a decision like that as foolish, but when the way you experience life is mostly based on your beliefs — your subjective truth — the only foolish decision is to go through it all thinking the negatives are worth focusing on.
We are on this constant search for happiness, look for it in the things only the few possess and are willing to sacrifice so much for it. Meanwhile it is all in front of us, we simply have to choose to see it. Appreciate the art that we are surrounded by. Appreciate the options we have as humans. And most importantly, appreciate your own unique human experience.