The truth of a genuine friendship
It’s been two months since I went to Saigon to work on my dream internship. How time flies.
I can vividly remember the moment when I had to choose such a hard decision. Two offer letters came at a time. One came from a prestigious firm which could help me tremendously in my resume, another came from a fast growing start-up which promised a very awarding experience to me but would cost me much. Moving to a new city, to me, at that time, was something inexplicable, and a bit risky. But one lesson that I had learned was stepping out of the comfort zone, which meant going to a new place, a bustling city with no sleep at night and filled with numerous skyscrapers. The environment seemed to be against my introversion. Yet, everything turned out to be great.
Here, I spontaneously met a super duper friendly Vietnamese-American, who helped me connect with his friends who were great as well. I had the chance of going through so many American games like True American, King Cup and so on. All of which was the ones that I had never played before and would never have had a chance to play if I had stayed in Hanoi for summer.
Here, I exposed my another side for the first time, and especially, to friends whom I first met. The thing I thought that I could not have done due to the fear of being judged. But those ones did not do that. They were immensely supportive, empathized and warm-hearted. They helped me survive through my first being drunk and my first singing crazily during the night. That night, from my deep down heart, was golden.
Here, I could find a gang who never judged me for who I am, and I could dance freely and wildly with my all of my favorite songs. And I could behave and act like a little kid sometimes.
And what I learned about the genuine friendship and what could help it last long was truly the deep connection among our friends. The values should be beyond the jokes which help us laugh and, humor or common kinds of stuff. The values should reach to the vulnerability of each of us that we should deeply understand each other, know their stories, feel empathized and most importantly, have an open heart to let us be ourselves without the fear of being judged.
All of which, to me, would shape a truly genuine relationship. A relationship which we will never feel afraid of being hurt again.