I won’t lie that you’re attractive

“By lying to someone that he or she isn’t fat, by lying to someone that he or she is good looking and attractive, we make it seem like it’s all that matters: it doesn’t and it shouldn’t.”

“Do I look good?” is a question that almost invariably leads to the answer, “Of course, you are”, even if you think that they don’t look good — especially when the person asking this question is someone you care about: your children or your partner.

But no, I’m not going to say that. I care about a lot of people, I love a lot of people and yet, I find most of them unattractive and not-so-beautiful. But it simply doesn’t make a difference to me. It shouldn’t.

Am I too fat?

Why is it okay to say that someone is attractive, cute and sexy and rude to tell that some is not? Why is it a complement to tell that someone is skinny, but rude to tell that someone is fat?

Yes, you are too freaking fat.

There, fat — is that an ugly word? I don’t think so. What’s the big deal? It’s just a word.

By lying to someone that he or she isn’t fat, by lying to someone that he or she is good looking and attractive, we make it seem like it’s all that matters: it doesn’t and it shouldn’t.

Humans have developed a natural way of selecting their mates, and attractiveness is one factor among many and evolution have made us believe that certain bodily features are more attractive that others.

Attractiveness does hold certain advantages, but not all of us are born attractive and that’s okay!

If you’re not attractive, I’m going to say that you’re not. If you’re fat, I’m going to say that you are. But I’ll also add: It doesn’t matter.