I totally am on board at that. This was one of my self discovery topic this year. It’s like when I’m not so nice to myself already — I feel totally shortchanging myself when I go out of my way to be nice to someone else. Like even though I’m doing the action, I feel totally opposite — as if I’m being forced to give. And I hate that feeling of “have to” rather than “want to” — feels even more guilty that I’m feeling that way. Makes sense?
However, if I’m feeling happy about myself in general — like a sense of achievement or just hit the quota of “enough about myself now” benchmark, I feel almost I can offer my time to others or stick out a hand because I feel generous to give.
If viewed in this light, I guess — I need to start thinking of myself more: I have to be more selfish first before I can become selfless. ;)
