Being an introvert and loving it!

Let me throw you in a life situation right away. Suppose you are in a group of people, chatting away merrily, laughing at every joke one cracks, having a fun ‘group time!!’ that you always are super excited about. Then… You see a person who isn’t talking much, keeping to himself, and acting like what the majority find to be ‘awkward’ What’s the first thing that pops in your mind? (*whispers in the mind*) ‘Oh I guess we have a psychopath here!’ I’m sure that’s what pops in most of our minds.
Yeep, you’ve got an introvert there. Let’s go with the textbook definition of ‘introvert.’ Oxford puts it this way:

Introvert (noun) A person predominantly concerned with their own thoughts and feelings rather than with external things

Now let’s be honest. We all hate those textbook definitions. They seem to be too strict, and in this condition; pretty vague. Each dictionary has their own definition of being an introvert!
So, let me just explain what, obviously, according to me, is being an introvert. First up, I admit I am an introvert, and I’m happy about that!

Being an introvert means to be a ‘one man army,’ as I like to put it. An introvert person likes being alone; hell, he LOVES being alone. Being alone helps him to act natural and not be someone else. Heck, let’s change that third person to first, cause I think I’m talking about myself. I hate being in public, I hate talking to people for a long time, and I hate going out with friends, even if it’s something fun. It just drains all my energy and makes me feel miserable! Ha ha. I rarely start the conversation with anyone, not because I fear talking to them, or that I’m too shy, It’s just that I just don’t find any topic to talk about, and also, I find it kinda irritating talking like.. anything!!!

So, does that make me an anti-social? Depends on what people think of being social. Do they expect me to constantly keep talking, and sharing all the weird stupid stuff that happened to me? Do they expect me to come up front, talk a lot? Then yes sir, call me anti-social!
Me, being an introvert; am very comfortable with being alone. There are times when I don’t go to college and instead just sit in my room all alone. That sounds ‘crazy’ and ‘stupid’ to some of my friends, most of whom are extroverts. People think that this behaviour of mine states that I’m sad or something like that.

But is being alone that bad? No! Being alone opens up my mind. Being alone makes me feel like I have this person whom I can trust, I can believe, and who I know will never disappoint me: and that person is me myself! Being alone makes me productive, adds meaning to my life, helps me to think clearly, and be proud of myself. Being alone can actually make you more productive and happy. Let’s face it, by being alone, you have the amazing ideas and that amazing boldness to face anything.

Does that mean I don’t like hanging out with people? No! I do love hanging out with friends, and talking to them. I just like being alone much. Being with my friends does cheer me up, makes me feel special at times! But the constant thought of making them laugh, being the ‘Man of The Hour’ thing bogs me down. I admit that it’s not my comfort zone.

In this world, almost all believe that being an extrovert makes you successful. Is that so? Well, being an extrovert makes you ‘look’ successful, but the underlying fact whether you are or not successful lies much deeper and has no connection whatsoever in ‘looking’ successful. Sure as heck, people will envy a person who looks successful and confident than a person who looks kinda introvert, but has pretty good execution power and great ideas compared to the earlier guy. Many successful people are introverts, as this video might show you

Introvert people don’t like to drag a conversation. They are always to the point, making their point in the least words possible.

So, how, you may think that people who don’t socialize much become successful? Well, the thing is.. The people who are introvert think many times before they take any decision. They have the inner sense of peace within them, a feeling that they themselves control them. They are unaffected by other people, because their driving force is they themselves!

However, this doesn’t mean that being successful wants you to be an introvert. Being successful lies in the reality of you accepting the real you and being in the situation in which you feel comfortable. For some, it is in the presence of other people and for the rest, solitude is their sole companion.

Let me now state what are the problems that I face being an introvert; and later, I’ll discuss how it is that I overcome this. Being an introvert is always frowned upon in every community. It’s like some… psychic thing that makes you strange. Like if I don’t talk to people, they think that I’m strange or sad. Why the bleep do I have to constantly say something to let others know that I am happy! Can’t I be happy silently? Ha ha. Being an introvert always made me feel inferior to others. Others were like.. outgoing, engaging in conversations, and constantly talking and interacting. Surely, it does look appealing and grand. Being an introvert always made me uncomfortable being with people, and I always thought it’d been better if I were in my room, alone. It is like a constant challenge to be ‘in the conversation.’ Also, I do find making conversations pretty hard. Whenever I am with any person, there’s this eerie silence, and me racing my mind to make conversation. All I could come up with would be.. Nothing. And even if I did come up with something, it’d be a really short one, never succeeds.
So! Now on to how I overcome my problems of being an introvert. The first and foremost thing that I do is:

Accept who I am

Yeah! Easier said than done. I try to always be happy, and accept what I like and what I don’t. I don’t try to be an extrovert if I’m not.

I try not to run away from gatherings or invites, and try to socialize. It’s a skill that I think is very important and fun, regardless of me being an introvert.

Well, I do find that socializing is important, that’s how you make new friends! And friends are important. Sometimes, even I, being an introvert get tangled in myself. That’s where friends come to rescue. However, I make my exit from parties pretty soon, else I’d be drained as hell.
Many extroverts might think what is it that introverts do sitting all alone. Well, they follow theirpassion. They do what they love doing, alone, just like you do what you love to do with your friends. Introvert people are always in their thoughts, making wonderful things on their way. They see things like no extrovert person does. And that’s why introverts are essential in this world to make a change.