Does everyone have to be on the same page? (part 2)
In my youth, and early adult life, I’ve found myself perturbed by certain behavior in others. These annoyances probably first manifested themselves when I bought www.ihatestupidshit.com when I was 16. 1o years later I’m once again trying to put to paper my analyses of these things, only this time I’m more confident (maybe undeservedly) of my understanding of things.
Anyway, in part 1 of this post, I wrote about one of the things that annoys me, which is the apparent need for people to “be on the same page” as everyone else, to a degree that I would argue is more noticeable and dominating than in previous generations.
That being said, a goal of these writings is not only to articulate these annoyances, but to try to explain them, psychologically. In fact, my self-prescribed way of coping with these annoyances has been to try and find root-causes. (As an aside, I think the overriding need to get to the bottom of something, to it’s truth, is the single greatest unearther of the “new.”)
Anyway, here is a hypothesis on why we might all need to be on the same page…
Maybe we all want to be on the same page because being on the same page creates a concrete form of security, especially when it comes to self-expression. Being on the same page sets boundaries for new forms of expression that we find ourselves engaging in, mainly on social media. Once these boundaries can be concretized, only then can we begin to push those boundaries.
Is this how it’s always been? There is usually a pioneer who does something, and then a zillion other people play within the proverbial playground this pioneer developed. The insecure folks stick to the norms and boundaries of the playground, while some other folks, more risk-averse, push the boundaries and test waters of the playground. Then another pioneer comes and rewrites the rules of the playground, effectively creating a new environment.
Social media, especially on mobile, appears to be a newly designed playground, and I don’t foresee us breaking it’s boundaries anytime soon, for better or worse.