Joshua Sanders

Don’t get confused, I’m not insecure about my skin okay? I adore my skin, but the majority of America doesn’t. Also, I never said you deserved discrimination for wearing a kippah. You’re kind of putting words in my mouth/twisting my words. I never said you haven’t lived either, nor am I implying that you should stfu. It’s hard having this conversation knowing you’re literally not understanding anything that I’m saying. Also, affirmative action isn’t racist… Whomever it was that created affirmative action realized there was an issue in the system. Note that I said affirmative action benefits minorities AS WELL AS WOMEN. It is not racist, it’s attempting to correct racism AND/OR discrimination. It isn’t just for us minorities.

“Your claim that black prejudice equals “white privilege” is the same thing as saying: i) a person born healthy is “privileged” because people are born with cystic fibrosis; ii) a person born with one leg is “privileged” because some people are born with zero legs; and iii) a homeless person on the street is “privileged” because some people are homeless and sick.”

Dude, if I have legs and someone doesn’t, I DO have an advantage over them. If someone has CF, I DO have an advantage. I’m privileged in A CERTAIN WAY. That’s all I’m saying.

You said “You being prejudiced on the basis of your skin color, however, does not mean that I am privileged on the basis of my skin color. There is no “privilege” in not being as disadvantaged as others.”

That made me speechless, honestly. If you know that people are being prejudiced because of their skin and YOU are NOT, then don’t you see that you have an advantage in life?

I did not say that people getting jobs they don’t deserve should occur more often. I said applications with black names are overlooked. Also, fun fact, white people with criminal records are 5% more likely to be hired than a man of color with a clean record. Gee, I wonder why. Maybe because of that white privilege? Who knows.

I kind of feel like you’ve made up your mind and then closed it. That’s okay but my opinion still stands. I will say again, it is hard for you to accept something that you have not experienced. This doesn’t mean I am saying you haven’t gone through some shit or that your opinion doesn’t matter.

“If you walk into a room thinking people are judging you based on your skin color, then no matter what they are actually thinking you walk out assuming you were correct. They could spend the entire conversation idly chitchatting about furniture while thinking about their mother’s illness or last night’s football game. You will still walk out thinking that they were conjuring all sorts of negative stereotypes about you because of your complexion and that they were judging you inferior.”

I think you have me confused for someone who walks out of my door constantly thinking “Oh, everyone hates me because I’m black.” I don’t. I do not think I’m inferior to anyone and I do not walk into a room expecting racism, I only ever think about it when I SEE it, EXPERIENCE it or when I come on the internet and have to argue that my thoughts and experiences as a black person are valid. All I am saying is that it happens. It is a possibility.

“If you are a true social justice warrior (as your bio claims), why would you care more about the less important factor of race? Should not the efforts of a warrior for social justice start with the greater injustice of “pretty privilege”?

I think that this is an important factor of race. There are black women who literally hate themselves because of how they look (before you get it twisted again, I’m not one of these women, but I’ve seen it and it breaks my heart.) I think this is important to address, which is why so many people are advocating for more representation in the media, that’s why when there’s a black bachelorette, or a black barbie, it is news and people get excited.

“We recognize pretty privilege yet that does not change its impact. Why would recognizing white privilege change anything?”

What this has shown me is that you like your white privilege, which is cool. Must be nice up there. If you can understand that other privileges exist then why not recognize your own? I think it’s because you don’t want to address it.

“If the black guy admitted that he spends each afternoon in his office snorting coke, I would think “Lazy N_______”. While if the Irish or Jew made the same statement I would think “Lazy, loser.”

That is just the way my mind works. I am not judging you when you walk in the door. But I will judge your conduct, perhaps more harshly, if you exhibit the negative stereotypes of your race.”

That ^ also left me speechless. It’s nice to know you call us niggers in your head, thanks. This is why minorities feel the need to assimilate. I try my best not the be loud or angry in public because I do not want to be labeled that angry black woman. There are things I do because I do not want to be associated with false and harmful stereotypes. I used to think that this was silly of me, but knowing you call us niggers in your head after we act human and do something that just so happens to be associated with “blackness”, clearly, my assimilation is serving a useful purpose. Also, white people are the ones who snort coke in the workplace, not us… You know, if I’m being stereotypical. :)

Joshua, the way your mind works is scary. I hope you really don’t go through life saying things like that in your head.

“When you’re accustomed to privilege, equality feels like oppression.” And I think you’re afraid of this. You think all races being equal may not feel as nice as your privilege.

Also, you said being born gay is a myth… I sighed here. But that’s a conversation for another day.