Laugh but not aloud

I make jokes, really great jokes. I also know how to take a joke.

Being a parent is not a joke.

Being a child is not a joke.

We make jokes from our experiences, but the being, is not a joke.

The past is a joke, but the future we hold dearly.

The present may be a chuckle, but the inevitable is always something to prepare for.

Somehow, no one is quite ready for the inevitable.

One of fashion’s GREATEST ICONS have passed away…

Very noteworthy

Very ICONIC

Definition of ELEGANCE

I’ve learned SO MUCH from Andre Leon Talley.

May Andre Leon Talley Rest In Peace.

May the women and the girls RESPECT his legacy forever.

Footprints forever in the sand of time.

Thank you for your contribution to our lives.

Lastly, there is a MISSING PERSON

Her name is: BIANCA LEBRON

a few weeks ago I saw her missing poster. She’s been missing for over 10 years now.

I know what you’re thinking but here me out.

She was taken from school, after school had finished. In the middle of broad daylight.

I am not a professional, but here is what I believe.

This woman may or may not look like a man by this time. May have distorted facial features to not recognize herself or may be hidden and enslaved somewhere.

My guess is, for you to take a child like that, you’ve got to be watching this kid on a regular basis … to know how strong she is, how loud she may be, how FAST she is, who picks her up and WHEN.

Someone had to be living close to the school to kidnap her. Maybe even a neighborhood friend.

So this is my message to ALL parents out there.

Just be kind to your kids.

You could be the BEST PARENT ON EARTH & one second you look away, and that ONE second is all ANYONE NEEDS.

You know?

Pay attention to what your children watch, and how long they watch it for. Be aware of your compassion to them but do not spoil them, because they WILL turn out rotten.

Take parenting classes.

Be cautious because even kidnappers are in parenting classes and parenting cliques on social media sites.

Honestly, they are everywhere.

Even if a kid is NOT YOURS, look after them as if they are.

Even if they are the child of your enemy.

No child deserves to be stripped from their loving family.

A mom crying over her MISSING CHILD effects ‘ME.’

I can’t NOT feel for her.

I don’t even know her.

But in my days of living, I’ve known a SHIT LOAD OF SEXUAL PREDATORS to be ‘TEACHERS’ among students (gym teachers mostly).

Even kindergarten teachers. Even the LUNCH LADY!

WOMEN ARE SEXUAL PREDATORS TOO!

Just keep an eye out in your community.

There’s been a HIGH RISE of kidnapping along the East Coast from NYC to CT to NJ and I just think we’re not as compassionate as when MISSING CHILDREN use to be on MILK CARTONS.

I’m saying, all it takes is for a SICK PERSON to see you yell at your kid ONE time to know you have limited patience … to wait and strike.

I PRAY THAT NEVER HAPPENS TO YOU.

These SICK INDIVIDUALS are at CARNIVALS, SESAME PLACE, SIX FLAGS, DORNEY PARK.

This is IMPORTANT TO SAY because it is ‘MY’ GENERATION who is having children!

It is MY GENERATION that I grew up with!

It is MY GENERATION having difficulties with the education system and hospitals, now.

We are ALL we have.

Don’t wait till we’re in the Emergency Room or the Police Station to have your guard up.

HOLD YOUR CHILDS HAND AT ALL TIMES

IF YOU FEEL SOMEONE BEING SUSPICIOUS, TRUST THAT FEELING

ALWAYS CONFRONT SOMEONE WHO SEEMS TO BE AROUND A ‘SCARED’ CHILD/CHILDREN

ALWAYS SPEAK UP — EVEN IF ITS NOT YOUR PLACE

A few months ago, I had lost my temper with my daughter & yelled at her on the metro north.

Some random white lady TOLD me I shouldn’t raise my voice at her like that.

Was she out of line?

ABSOLUTELY.

I was ready to beat her ass (but not in front of my kid).

My kid was acting out & we were in public — yeah I raised my voice but I can’t go back in time. I was going through a LOT at the time & I regret yelling but the woman had no right.

Except… she did.

And I’m glad she did.

Ever since that day, I’ve been watching how I treat my baby (especially in public).

Ever since that day, I see other moms who are young, widowed, divorced, homeless, economically-challenged ‘ESPECIALLY’, and I ‘smile’ at them. I don’t say anything but “HEY, I SEE YOU MOM, HAVE A GREAT DAY! YOU LOOK BEAUTIFUL! BE KIND TO YOURSELF!”

I don’t DARE tell them how to raise their kids.

It’s NEVER about the kids.

It’s about whats going on in mom’s personal life.

I am a SINGLE MOM… I get it.

There’s just an elegant way of caring for children and that’s by the SOURCE — which are the PARENTS.

And not just the mother… too much pressure is on being a mom who has all her shit together.

The pressure needs to be also on the father who thinks it’s an option to be a great parent.

Or co-parent.

Which equally effects the children involved.

That’s my peace for tonite.

I have my secrets laid out

I have no secrets

I look forward to living a free life

No one can torment me from my own freedom

Finances don’t mean freedom

Relationships don’t mean freedom

Parenthood DEFINITELY doesn’t mean freedom

But being pure …

It’s like water

And water is free .

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