Ilana Grostern
Nov 2 · 2 min read

I’m always so thrilled to find stories about older women and younger men. There is SO much judgement out there, and the worst comes from…ourselves.

My partner is 16 years younger than me. We met and had SO much in common, and got along so well. We are way more compatible than my ex husband of 20 years and I could ever have been. And this applies in all areas, especially in the bedroom. I am more fulfilled by this relationship than I’ve been by any in my life and at the end of the day, that’s what matters.

It’s been 2.5 years for us, with some time apart while he did some deep soul searching about his desires for his own life, and in that time, he grew up SO much. I need a growth partner more than anything, and my younger man fits the bill to a T.

Might he fall in love with a younger woman who is not me one day? He might. Might he fall in love with an older woman who is not me? He might. Might he fall in love a woman his own age? There’s that possibility too. But I also might do those things. That’s the name of relationship. But none of that possibility can take away from the depth of the experience we are living together now.

Maybe one day I’ll write about our age difference, except there really is nothing to write about that I wouldn’t apply to any other relationship with another person. Some things I can chalk up to age. But if we’re both being honest, there’s no reason a man in his 40s wouldn’t do the same things. Age doesn’t always translate to experience or wisdom. Some people behave the same way at 43 as they do at 27 because that’s what they have chosen, and those people are not people I want to be in relationship with.

Keep up the great work, Yael! Love reading your stories!

    Ilana Grostern

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    Small business owner, amateur photographer, lover, fighter, mother, woman. http://ilanagrostern.com