What Is a Desirable Partner?
Putting thought into what we’re looking for

We spend so much time in our lives hoping and praying that a ravishing lady or a dashing man would come into our lives and provide companionship. For some, love is their biggest aim. For me, love may one day be my biggest aim. What’s a goal so high without a standard set for what one is looking for?
I believe that it is important we create a vision for what we want in our future partner. Many date out of a scarcity mindset. Whoever comes along, comes along, they will love them for who they are and hope it works out. See, the issue with this mindset is that our expectations for how we believe a partner should act creeps up over time. Then, it gets wrapped up in our emotions. In a broken world, when expectations are not met in our romantic relationships, it typically leads to a shock in our emotional well being.
Maybe I don’t know what I’m looking for, maybe I do not even know what I’m talking about, however, I am confident that I know what I am not searching for.
The type of partner I do not want is one that is fun oriented. These type of individuals look and live for “exciting,” fun and fast paced lifestyles as a means to achieve fulfillment and happiness. Some may identify them as weekend warriors, I simply define them as friends-only, or undesirable partners. Until these folks are truly internally happy they cannot achieve growth and improvement because they do not prioritize it. The sustainability is not present. So then what is desirable?
The most desirable partners exude great energy to the world, but save their best energies for their home.
To live an eternally enriching life the order must be reversed, starting with growth. There is no greater value that one can add to their life than a yearning for growth and improvement. Through self-actualization and breaking through barriers of growth, happiness and satisfaction will follow. Once happiness follows, in everything they do, their love will be passed along and spread to so many as if that person were an ultralight beam in both dark and burning rooms.
Naturally, what is more fun than a loving, passionate soul who is genuinely excited and satisfied with and about life? It is not WHAT you do, but HOW you do it. The most desirable partners exude great energy to the world, but save their best energies for their home. Thus creating desirability.

