I read this… You’re in two minds about what you’re really saying.

Great question. I am explaining the circumstances around their situation from the context of my personal experience growing up as a male in Nigeria, and how I processed the patriarchy in Nigerian culture vis a vis consuming foreign societal norms. I certainly know better now that I am a lot more mature and better rounded in my philosophy for living.

That said, A very young lady found a knight, the knight ended up doing these things to her. The things he did were not okay. The knight was probably just having a good time, assuming he was going to get away with it scot-free, per usual. Guys do this, and I hope my article conveys the reason why ‘we’ do it in the explanation of my personal experience growing up. I am not going to dwell too much on the legal connotation of rape since it insinuates that I am judging him without a conviction. Until substantial proof comes out, it is legally alleged.

However, I think I am pretty clear in the article that she was the vulnerable one, as Mustapha Audu was older, should have known better, and should have played a different role instead of taking advantage of her. As a result, I support her. From a philosophical standpoint, he raped her, and I will not be surprised if there is proof out there that he legally did as well. My yardstick is — Would I want this done to the females in my life who I love and deeply care for when they happen to be in a vulnerable state? My answer to that question is no. Now I need to do what I can to make sure the females in my life are safe with you or any man for that matter. This in my opinion is a signal that our culture as a society needs to change.

Reason and implication, she spoke out and now we are talking. Now we are thinking. Our progress as a society is dependent on how comfortable we are with asking complex questions, having uncomfortable conversations like this one and solving difficult problems in our culture today. No society has made any progress without the stories of people like Lotanna, whose personal experiences force us to challenge the oddities in our culture and the things we perceive to be okay. This is progress.

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