In today’s society relationship has come a long way from the old traditional way. Most people would rather accept whatever they get in a relationship and not truly be happy, while others may walk away seeking to find someone who they could be happy with. Some may settle for less than their worth because they don’t want to be alone, and some may not want to settle at all because they don’t want to be in love. Let’s look at what Traditional relationship is before we move on to the Modern Relationship.
Traditional relationship is where a man pursues a woman to have a wife. The man would be the provider and protector of the family. It will also be where the man goes out to work and the woman stays at home to nurture and support the family.
The modern relationship is where both individuals pursue each other, and the purpose of this is not to get married and have kids. People have changed the role of the relationship, women are now more independent and want to go out in the world to offer or help to support their family. The relationship can also have both women or both men.
In most modern relationships we are generally quick quitters. No one seems to be willing to give unconditional love these days. The sacrifice, compromise, or time and energy it takes to make the love grow and our relationships last is like taboo to us At any sign of problems, we give up on the each other, quit, and walk away.
People today want to have exciting experiences and lots of fun and are not necessarily looking for love. Instead of finding someone who understands our wants and needs or a life partner with whom we can make lasting memories. We rather instant gratification and someone that makes our life exciting immediately. We don’t want someone boring and predictable, we want non-stop fun. Then when relationships no longer give us the excitement and adventure we crave, we move on to the next person.
It takes time to develop an emotional connection, sense of belonging, and a deep knowledge of someone before the relationship can mature. We don’t have the time to let those things develop, because we want things instantly. Technology has shaped our society in a way, where we gravitate towards things that give us satisfaction immediately, so if we don’t get what we want quickly we tend to move on.
As dream chasers, we have no room for love in our fast-paced modern life. We want to enjoy the bright lights and party into the night. We want all the material things money can buy. We form relationships based on convenience. We don’t have space, time or patience to develop loving, lasting relationships.
Physical closeness is replaced by modern technology because we have instant messaging, snap chat, Whatsapp video calls, and texts. We know so much about each other in advance, we’re bored with each other by the time we meet. We’ve dug so deep into people online profiles and histories there’s nothing left for them to reveal. Oversharing online chokes the life out of our relationships.
As socialites, we are greedy because we want many options to choose from. We want it all. We want perfect mates and are disappointed when the one we’re with can’t fulfill our dreams right away. We spend little time with a lot of people we meet rather than lots of time getting to know one special person. We confuse attraction with love and bail on the relationship at the slightest provocation. We’re not interested in bringing out the best in others, we’re looking for the greenest pasture. And we’re disappointed when no one meets our expectations
Most people don’t know the difference between love and sex or love and lust, because we are sexually liberated. We have sex first then check to see if we’re in love afterward. We ‘hook up’ then break up. We have sex because it’s easy, feels good, and fulfills our needs. But it doesn’t have any meaning. It’s like getting drunk. It doesn’t require any loyalty. There are no sexual taboos. One night stands, friends with benefits, and open relationships are the new normal. Relationships are too complicated and we’re not interested in love or exclusivity.
We guard ourselves because we are afraid to love, and if we fall in love then we become vulnerable. So we build walls to protect ourselves because we don’t want our hearts to be broken and our feelings to be hurt, we keep others out and hide from love. A dangerous emotion such as love scares us. We guard our hearts and hide our feelings because we can’t handle love.
Modern relationships have no value and love is no longer sacred. People rush to mix and mingle, instead of cherishing the most wonderful people in our lives. We’ve evolved and conquered the world. Yet we’ve lost the most basic and important human instinct. The ability to love one another.