THE STORM OF THOUGHTS
We draw a misleading picture of one without understanding all the sides. Today, good understanding is not all about seeing just two sides of a coin but observing the thin layer of it as well. A lot of things are hidden within it. It’s all about how well you groom your thoughts.
Finding greys in the battle of black and white is very important. But today we are impatient to do so.
How much effort do we take to know all sides of the story?
Does battle between mind and heart mislead your thoughts? Does our unconscious bias cloud our judgement?
At times you literally can’t control your mind and it affects your thoughts so hard in negative ways, that you lose the sight of reality. It is just like trying to search for light by sitting under the sun.
Assumption is one of the greatest mistakes in the process of life. Yes! ‘Assumption’, when we assume things, we carry unnecessary burden which makes no sense, to further our progress in personal or professional life. These self-forced thoughts are a manifestation of our ego and experiences we have in our life. We force our thoughts to stress over those things that have touched our ‘EGO’. But ask yourself, have you ever found happiness when you fight for self-ego?
This moment, I’m expressing my inner voice carrying a heavy heart. There’s lot inside which has numbed me already. The more I train my mind to be open, more I’m forced to dig deep inside the dark layer of Thoughts. This ultimately makes me no different than the ones who are already killing the charm of others uplifting thoughts.
What does Freedom mean to you? — For me, ‘Freedom’is all about letting things go with a free mind that carries no burden in life; because tomorrow will bring a new challenge and I cannot tackle it when my yesterday is tagging along. I respect the fact that there are a lot of things hidden within the term ‘Freedom’ which I’ve not mentioned. Every reader will define Freedom differently depending on his or her life experiences.
Today I’m struggling to keep my real thoughts in their right place but often choose to ‘let go’ things. I know that letting things go is not always the solution. So I’m eagerly waiting to reboot and rebuild myself again. You must be wondering why am I waiting to reboot and stating such thoughts here. What made me re-think? Why am I struggling with my own thoughts?
Well….Have you ever experienced a tight punch from life when you were literally rolling on some cheerful days?
Honestly, I’ve tons of things running in my mind but can’t find the right way to start my story. I come from a mindset where I don’t see any crisis as a hindrance but a ‘Situation’. The moment you narrate your situation as hindrance you lose all your control right there, to manage the crisis and solution ahead. Some may agree while some may not; but that’s always been my approach towards it. I’ve experienced a big storm in my life that took away everything I valued around me. It takes just 2 mins to destroy and probably 2 decades to rebuild. And more importantly you end your being, the moment you give up on your mind. Your mental health plays a vital role to keep up your physical health.
After experiencing such a violent storm I have observed my values break down in front of me. When you see your loved ones literally losing their mind as their emotions take-over all the control, it throws you in a darkness and desolation.
I truly believe that maintaining a safe distance between Mind and Emotion is crucial in such critical situations; but not everyone can do it. I somehow managed to do it when everyone around me was shattered into pieces. I strived hard and pulled out all the stops to inject positivity, keeping my emotions locked somewhere far; but reachable where I would find them again for the time when I’m all set to express it to the fullest. But now isn’t the time to think over my emotions rather training my mind to re-structure the shattered minds around me. Sometimes I succeed and sometimes I don’t as much as I should.
Now, as the days progress my expectations of making things right even increased. Here we have come across a new term ‘Expectations’.
What is your take on expectations? If you have ever noticed that the moment you start expecting things from your loved ones you start judging them, unknowingly, and invite more complaints. I have observed that humans never intend to set expectations for themselves but expect more from others that, most of the times, leads to only ‘Disappointments’.
Assumptions, Judgments, Expectations, Disappointments and your past Drama will only tangle your thoughts and complicate your life more, and make your mind weaker. If you’ve observed, not even once you see freedom of mind in my above set of terms and circumstances. These emotions, more often than not, suffocate your mind and the mind never gets a moment to breathe free. So those minds around me, for whom I was struggling so hard to uplift them with all power and strength, took a reverse turn by bringing all those emotions back on me. The result was increased hurdles on our way; and what’s funny is that those hurdles were brought by none other than our own thoughts.
We only make our lives more difficult by creating big potholes on our way. Today rather than injecting all my positive energy to my loved one’s, I’ve been consumed by all unwanted thoughts; resulting my mind to loose it’s balance. One thing is pretty sure that there’s no one to help your mind better than yourself. I often think of putting everything on ‘Pause’; but in reality you can only do this in games. I feel if we get an opportunity to Pause our lives it will help the mind to declutter and restore all the poise in thoughts, to carve out the best possible route ahead. We can’t rewind life to change the past but we must learn from it. We can peruse it to understand what was wrong and what can go better in the life ahead.
Always consider these lines in your real life situations ahead — ‘Your negative thought is one big wave in the ocean and your positive thought is your tiny sailing boat, which is your only savior if you manage to stay in it fighting against the waves because Diving isn’t an option always!’.
- Indraneel Shelar
