I Never Finish Anything: The Manifesto
“I never finish anything. Haha, the tagline of my life”, I thought to myself jokingly while sitting at the restaurant with food on still on my plate. Later in the day, this moment came back to my mind, and I realized how sad that was. How sad it was that I trash myself like that from time to time.
I hate it. I really do. I hate how easy it comes, how easy it feels. I hate the weird comfort it gives me. I hate talking to myself like this because I know that deep down, this self-deprecating talk is doing no good and holding me back.
It is true that I’ve started things that I haven’t finish. But come on, we all have.
That New Year’s Resolution.
That project I bought materials for.
That wall I was going to paint.
That phone call I was going to make.
I know, I’m not alone in this. So what would it take for me, and all of us, to take action and finish these things?
There have been multiple instances in my life lately that have shown me how volatile stability is. Nothing is a guarantee, not even the next second. I recently lost one of my closest friends from college. It hit me especially hard because I wasn’t physically close to her when it happened and I was unable to say goodbye. The following days after her death made rethink everything that I had shared with her, every memory and every conversation. I wanted to hold on to every single word I remembered, to every single image in my head. Whatever I was able to conjure back is precious to me now. I find her in different ways in my life, and I hope she keeps appearing because I’ll keep looking.
The point of this story is that this event made me realize I can’t be a person that doesn’t finish things anymore. I don’t want to be that person. I don’t want to take for granted that I have time. I don’t want to take for granted that I have health. I don’t want to take for granted anything. I don’t want to wait until something tragic happens to find value in it.
So this is where this journey begins, I now vow to be a person that does. I will show love to myself just like I show love to others. I will be compassionate and forgiving because I deserve it.
And as much as this is about me, this is about you too. I’m serious when I ask, what will it take to clear these to-do lists?
Maybe the reason we don’t follow through is that we lack support. Perhaps we feel overwhelmed by the amount of information on the internet about a particular topic (or every topic to be honest. This is a big one for me). Or maybe we don’t finish because it’s easier not to do it.
And so we continue with our lives, slowly and discretely planting a seed in our heads that it’s okay to not complete tasks and not to achieve goals. And we don’t recognize what we’re doing to ourselves until reality comes knocking. And then we have to face guilt and regret.
So let’s not put ourselves in that position anymore. Let’s be true to our words and desires.
Easier said than done? Um.. yea.. of course. But at least we’re not alone.
So this is what I want to do. I want to start a podcast. I want to find people that need help completing something they started, and I want to help them finish the damn thing.
I want to hear your stories. I want to figure out why we do this to ourselves and how we can break the cycle.
I promise to help whoever lets me, hoping they’ll get a kick out of finishing something and continue doing it. And of course, I’ll be working on breaking my own cycle as well.
If this sounds interesting to you, please send me your story to firstname.lastname@example.org.
Thank you for reading. More to come soon.
First step: Complete