How to Fall Apart

What do you do when your world starts falling apart?

There is a short, and a long answer to this. Here’s the short answer: you let it.

I get that this can be confronting as an idea, our minds go straight to the “what if’s”, and the: “how about?” and the: “but I still have to …” Which is precisely why we need the long answer.

The long answer is reflected in all natural experience: breathing, phases of the moon, tides, the cycle of seasons. Even the sunrise and the sunset is a daily reminder that everything has its time and everything is in a constant state of change. This includes you and everyone around you.

When things fall apart we need to rely on our ability to stay present to what is going on. Without being present we will be confounded by our fears for the future and attempt to fix things that have not yet happened. We will find and zoom-in on our worst-case scenario; committing all our energies to making sure things stay as they are now. We try to fix that version of the future and allow ourselves to believe that it is real right now; whereas it is still a fiction driven by our fear of change.

But when your world is falling apart, fear is compelling, as is finding safety in an imagined future certainty. It takes courage to be still, and sit with your Right Now. However you respond, things are already…