7 Tips For Dealing With Erectile Dysfunction In A Relationship

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Jan 21, 2019 · 5 min read
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Dealing with erectile dysfunction can be a stressful episode in any relationship, no matter how long you’ve been together.

Sometimes, this problem can be related to a health issue. For example, if you’re a smoker, this could lead to erectile dysfunction. In some cases, it may have a mental health aspect to it. Issues such as depression and anxiety can also cause you to experience erectile dysfunction.

This problem can be difficult to deal with, particularly if it happens at a younger age. When dealing with this issue, it’s important that you keep your partner in the loop at all times. Failing to address the problem together can place a huge strain on your relationship.

How to Deal with Erectile Dysfunction in a Relationship

Although only one person in the relationship is physically dealing with the problem, it always affects the other partner as well. The strain is even greater when dealing with other forms of anxiety such as financial pressure, like the loss of a job or reduction in income, and other issues related to the pressure to perform.

Understanding and compassion is important, especially if you’re the other person in the relationship. ED can be physically trying and even traumatic at times for those going through it. But more times than not, there are deeper, underlying problems that cause the ED in the first place. That’s especially true if it’s not lifelong ED.

1. Show Each Other Empathy

Erectile dysfunction can impact both sides of a relationship in a very severe way. It’s very important that you both empathize with each other and understand how the condition affects your partner. Whether you’re the one struggling with the ED or not, empathy is an important tool for working through it together.

Erectile dysfunction can sometimes be psychological in nature. If you feel like you’re facing it alone, it can be much more difficult to deal with it. The experience is probably hard on you, but you need to recognize that it’s hard on your partner as well.

2. Don’t Put the Blame on Your Partner

ED is not the result of a loss in attraction for one another. There are almost always other extenuating causes. The inability to get or maintain an erectino is a complex thing involving both the brain and the body. For that reason, there are physical causes, but also psychological causes.

It is not the result of your partner no longer finding you attractive. Instead, the causes are likely related to other things such as conflicting medication, diet, environmental stress factors, other emotional issues, and more. Don’t let erectile dysfunction create pressure, as it’s likely not related to the loss of passion in a relationship.

3. Check the Side Effects of Any Medication

Certain medications can end up causing lots of problems in the bedroom. If you’re experiencing erectile dysfunction and you’ve just started taking new medication, you should check the side effects.

Antidepressant drugs such as Prozac or Zoloft are notorious for causing ED. If you believe your medication might be causing you to experience ED, you should make an appointment to talk about it with your doctor.

In some cases, your doctor might be able to put you on different medication. They might also be able to add additional ones that can help with this problem.

4. Communicate with Your Partner

Good communication surrounding your sex life can improve it dramatically. If your partner’s having trouble getting or maintain an erection, you can improve things by asking what exactly they’d like to do in the bedroom.

If you’ve never communicated openly about this sort of thing, you might be surprised at what you find out about each other. Not only is communicating like this good for your sex life, but it’s also great for your relationship in general.

With this being said, your sex life should be about mutual respect. Don’t be scared to speak up if your partner suggests something you’re not comfortable with. You should never feel pressured into doing something sexual that you don’t want to do.

5. See a Therapist

If there’s no obvious medical solution to your erectile dysfunction problems, you might want to consider seeing some kind of therapist. You could either see a couple’s therapist or a sex therapist.

If you feel like the erectile dysfunction issues are part of a wider problem, you might want to consider seeing a couple’s counselor. If the problem is purely sexual in nature, however, you should perhaps consider seeing a sex therapist.

When you see a therapist, you’ll have a safe and supportive environment in which you can both work on any issues you might have.

6. Lead a Healthy Lifestyle

In a lot of erectile dysfunction cases, an unhealthy lifestyle is to blame. One of the best ways to treat your erectile dysfunction is to start leading a healthier life.

For example, you might not be eating a good diet nor are you getting enough exercise. If you’re a smoker and a drinker, this could also contribute heavily to your erectile dysfunction.

After a few weeks of living a better lifestyle, you might find that your problem goes away completely. To make these lifestyle changes easier, your partner could join you in making these changes.

7. Address Any Mental Health Issues

A lot of people don’t know that your mental health can play a big role in erectile dysfunction issues. If you have problems such as depression or anxiety, this could give you some serious issues in the bedroom.

If you do have some mental health issues, you should consider seeking professional help. You should be honest with your partner about what you’re experiencing.

Mental health issues are much easier to deal with when you don’t have to go through them alone. Once you’ve told your partner about what it is you’re going through, you should make an appointment to see a psychologist or a psychiatrist.

Making the initial appointment is often the hardest part. But once you start to address your mental health issues, you might find that your erectile dysfunction problems go away completely.

You should be aware that if you’re given certain medications for mental illness, it could actually make your erectile dysfunction worse. If you’re prescribed any medicines, make sure you discuss these concerns with your healthcare professional.

Work on It Together

So, how to deal with erectile dysfunction in a relationship? The most important thing is that you work on the problem together.

If you try to face this issue alone and don’t keep your partner in the loop, not only is it bad for your relationship, but your chances of success also go down significantly.

Are you also dealing with premature ejaculation? Find out 5 ways to avoid it in our recent blog article.

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