Ilyse Kazar

Meanwhile in Dallas, with more paper and provisional ballots to count, Judge Frizell is now down by just 516 votes. Many of us have not even gone to bed yet and have been working through the night. Out of nearly 112,000 votes cast in this election, it’s down to the wire.

Because women are expected to regulate the emotions of men as well as themselves. They have to sharpen their emotional regulation skillz because they’ll be regulating for two even when they’re not pregnant. This has been a thing that’s starting to get noticed in feminist circles; the concept of unpaid emotional labor that women are expected to supply. This takes many forms (and I’ve written about this before) and at its most benign looks like listening, support and empathy. However, as it becomes more noxious, women are expected to read the emotions men and proactively protect them from their own negative emotions.