Why It’s Time for You to Go With the Flow

Water flowing past rock sculptures, Pixabay

Our animal brains just love fighting against the natural flow of things.

I used to resist a lot.

Mostly I tried to avoid change. That was the biggie.

Once I found myself in a comfortable position, I didn’t want to move. As it turns out, I’ve got a low pain tolerance, and that was also true about the pain of change.

If I didn’t like the direction something — like a conversation — was headed, I’d dig both heels in and try to get the sway of decision back to what I wanted.

After all, I’m always right.


Learning how to admit my wrongness and letting go of my need to eternally be right took a long time.

I can’t quite pinpoint the moment I started going with the flow instead of fighting against it, but I can say with certainty that I’m much less stressed out now because of that decision.

While there are genuine moments when digging our heels in is the best possible decision, far more often are the moments that are out of our control.

The only thing we are in control of is our reactions, so why waste energy reacting poorly to things we can’t change?

This simple truth eluded me for years.

I can’t change anyone but myself.

Profound, isn’t it?

What a novel idea!

The only person I can change is myself.

I can’t change the course of the river down which I’m floating. The only thing I can do is grab hold of my paddle and direct my tiny kayak through the rapids of life.

If I get a little wet, who cares?

If I fall out, that’s why I’m wearing a life jacket.

That’s what our experiences and our reactions to them do for us. What we learn in life and how we apply those lessons are what will keep us afloat when we tip over in the river.

After all, the water’s going to keep flowing no matter what we do about it.

So why not just go with the flow?