If a white person calls a young black boy, “the negro” (the Spanish word for black), would you not call it racism? Why then do you call this white woman “the tannie”?
When a person refers to another based on the color of their skin, dismissing their humanity, they are a racist.
[EDIT: Thank you PhasmaFelis for correcting me. Tannie is not a reference to skin color. In South Africa, it is a word for an older woman.]
But that tannie, in all her malice and unfiltered honesty, gifted it to me.
From what you wrote, your sister gave you the gift of racism, not this lady. Your sister called her a racist, and instilled that very thought into your innocent mind.
It is my prayer that you can go back to that life of innocence, where you won’t have to see white people as evil, or even get involved in white supremacy societal issues. Rather taking up the high road, declaring, “There is neither Jew nor Gentile, neither slave nor free, nor is there male and female, for you are all one in Christ Jesus.”
Dear daughter, you need to forgive, and you need forgiveness. The woman in that shop was no more or less a sinner than you are today. Even if she gave you this “gift” of racism, it’s your choice to take it and dwell on it.
Jesus was neither black or white. Jesus was born of a Jewish woman. Jesus sees people, Jesus sees you. He is the Son of God, and he died so that you can overcome every lie that has come into your life.
Racism may continue to exist, but it does not have to exist another day in you. Jesus is calling to you like he did to the rich young ruler. Get rid of all you have, come and follow me. Take those old ideas and get rid of them. Cast them away. Follow Jesus. He created you for His purpose.
God is no respecter of man, no matter the skin color.
You don’t have a white problem, you have a God problem.