The Artist’s 10 Rules To Work And Love

Ioana Cristina Casapu
2 min readMar 6, 2019


Learning to trust you are worthy as an artist starts with believing you are a good enough person.

1. Whenever you feel lost for words: go back to the writing board and read everything you’ve produced so far, even the lost bits of text that went down the internet drain. Read your work and revel at how good it is. Remember that book you never finished writing because you were downloading your emotions into worldly distractions rather than working on your passionate career? Now it’s high time to filter. You’ve lived. Go back and write that life down before courage becomes your one regret.

2. If you’re still hurting from love: write poems in autocorrect to yourself. Listen to some Esther Perel and Brene Brown’s On Vulnerability. Cry good chunks and then go back to sleep. Say no to everything else but your heart. Stay away from people who make you feel like you are hard to love.

3. If you’re struggling with life in another country: you’re always allowed to leave (but this lesson catches hard) and return. You are a citizen of this world.

4. If you’re unmotivated: take a shower and accept the probability of a brilliant idea slipping away with soap.

5. If you’re always comparing yourself to others: don’t worry too much about their business, but steal whatever you’re attracted to and integrate.

6. If you’re always on social media: you don’t want to go out there and do something. Intense intentions are fleeting. Be the paradox and take your flakiness somewhere else.

7. If you’re dating, having friends or wasting your life on a dating app: don’t ghost. Tell people facts in the face. Don’t be a contributor to the hazard. Don’t be mean. Say no. It feels good. It feels light.

8. If you’re crazy about someone who doesn’t like you back: do some attachment theory reading (and hopefully they’ll sell attachment style tests in drugstores soon enough). Turn on your heart light for those who see you for who you are.

9. If you’re someone who once did something big (and then fleeted into anonymity): Google yourself. There are things you’ve said that have changed other people’s plans and trajectories. Let them haunt you and change your thoughts again in return.

10. Believe you are a good person.
You are a good person.
You are a complete person,
Even if you have failed to see this for, maybe, years.

You are.
And that is, indeed, a miracle.

Don’t quit your story.
Tell your story.
Embody through storytelling



Ioana Cristina Casapu

Author and artistic rehabilitation teacher living in Berlin. I wrote a book on how social media hijacked the Millennial gen.