
Key Learning’s from Dale Carnegie Book:
Assume a person told you that I celebrated my birthday party tomorrow alone and had great fun. There are 800 solo pictures in my mobile, these are all my memories. I have a Facebook account with a blank friend list.Yes! you are thinking like me right now and you will answer , are you crazy man?Its sounds boring don’t tell me. Now imagine, you are discussing and sharing memories of a past event where you both enjoyed;this will be more worthy for you to remind again and you can laugh more naturally at this time.
We are all social animals and can’t live alone. We need friends and family to live a smooth and pleasure full life. A very famous sentence “ Making friends is not an art, but keeping them is” .
The first thing is how to make friends. The Dale Carnegie wrote a book on this which illustrate all the possible points about the friendship. He told that friendship is a broad issue,It needs sacrifices and loyalty. A self centered person can never be a good friend.
Dale Carnegie wrote some key points for making friend and those are: Remembering First Name
Its sounds lovely, when a person calls you with name. So try to remind names of fellows.
By Remembering Birthdays
Birthday wish Is great dish of happiness. Wish your fellows a very happy birthday and make them feel special.
Smart note: My birthday is on 14 February. ( Lots of Laughter)
If you want collect the honey,Don’t kick the beehive
Its not only the sentence but a great lesson. We should respect and accept the others as they are. Every man has a bright and dark side, and want to be accepted same. If we keep hunting bad habits we can’t have a friend ever.Every one feels that fault lies else where not in his self. People never criticized them selves, no matter how wrong they are. Criticizes make other person defensive If your way is not taught full. So stop criticizing and complaining. In fact we should give honest advice and appreciation.This is not easy at all because Its need a character and self holding for forgiving. This is commonly said “A great man shows his greatness by how he treats with little man”.
Talk for Their Interest
Just like a Fish and Lion can never have same interest, the different human beings have different tastes. We should talk to others on the topic they love. Always talking about Your self can bore the other.
Smile

Smile is beauty of character. A person feel comfortable to talk with you when you keep a smile on face. Aggressive faces has less attraction.
Be a Good Listener
A good listener is always a good adviser. It is said ALLAH gives you two ears and one tongue, so listen more and speak less. Try to obey this golden rule. People want to express them selves, they want to be understood. So give them chance to say what they want.
Respect the Other Opinions
when you are listening to other try to have zero body language. Never say other person immediately,You’re wrong. This action leads you towards useless argument. On other hand If you are wrong accept It.
WHAT I’VE LEARNT
Dale wrote all about what is needed from a friend to be a leader. I do these all steps already but one thing I should work on is; remembering the names and birthday of my circle. This is tough job for me, because I am bad in re calling the names. As far as I believe, the observing , listening, and understanding others can help your self too; In coping with your problems without sharing yours.Every one is interesting by their own ways. Try to challenge your self to adopt every good crowd. This will help you to improve your arguments in future. Never compare people. Love them or leave them; don’t fur state others with your logic's all the time. I want to quote a line here:
“You will never understand my problem until you take a step in my shoe”
And most important thing at the end is, in fact A friend in need is a friend indeed.