We have been told a lie for so many years..

Iqra Rasheed
Nov 2 · 2 min read

“It is the individual who is not interested in his fellow men who has the

greatest difficulties in life and provides the greatest injury to others.

It is from among such individuals that all human failures spring.”

We, the engineering students, have always been told that in order to grab an opportunity in the market, we need to be INTERESTING enough to stand out. But recently, after going through Dale Carnegie’s book “ How to win friends and influence people”, I actually got the real picture of the truth that we never knew. In his book, he mentions how “I” is the most widely used pronoun in New York and to be honest, this holds not only for New York but to the whole world.

I was so inspired by this idea of being INTERESTED rather than INTERESTING by Dale that I tried to implement it in my life so the rest of the blog is based on practical application of this idea into real world for 24 hours.

Being an extrovert, I have been blessed with so many friends and it’s always great to talk to them about my life, my goals and so many MY, I and MYSELF. But one day, when I removed this ‘I’ from my conversation, I was amazed with the flow of the communication then. So what I simply did was to ask some common questions to my friends like How are you ? or how’s life treating you these days? Or how was the event that you attended last weekend? Or why don’t you visit a dermatologist for your growing skin issues? Or you look a little tensed, is everything alright with you? And there was one common thing to these answers which I asked from different people; they all were more interesting in me now.

I never felt this kind of interest before when I tried so hard to be interesting for them but now when I took some interest in them by taking out some time, they were more focused and more inclined towards my ideas. And you won’t believe but I was asked quite a few questions about my life which I always wanted to discuss with someone 😊 but since this activity was to be INTERESTED rather than INTERESTING so I always tried to shift the question back to them which helped me knowing my friends better now :’)

Iqra Rasheed

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A Graduate Chemical Engineer by profession and an extrovert person by nature :”)

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