My mom, who didn’t go to college, used to say this to me, and it bothered me a lot. She’d say, “We’re not meant to be successful, so what you’ve achieved is good enough!”
Privilege and inequality in Silicon Valley
Ricky Yean

Your story is inspiring, how you’ve managed to overcome the challenges you’ve faced. I’m not in business (I’m a teacher) so I cannot relate to the business aspects of it, but I found your mother’s attitude unusual. My great-grandparents emigrated from China, so I’m a third-generation Chinese Malaysian. Generally, Chinese immigrants here had a hard life in the beginning, of course, and as a result emphasised the importance of a good education to their kids as the path to an easier, more comfortable and more successful life. This attitude has filtered down, so that to this day, Chinese parents here still push their kids to do well in school, send them for extra classes and additional tutoring after school, skimp and save to send their kids to good universities in Australia, the US, or the UK. Very different from your experience with your mother. In fact it’s a common joke that parents will say to their kids, “If you don’t study hard, you’ll end up being a janitor or garbage collector!”

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