The greatest boyfriend I’ve ever had — who’s beat everyone else by a landslide — is the dude I’m dating now. He only recently started using the label “boyfriend” — and mostly for the sake of simplicity. He doesn’t do flowers, or formal dates. He doesn’t text me every day. But what he does offer is emotional health, a deep understanding and appreciation for my needs, and a commitment to honoring me through them. And that’s what makes a partner.