LEAN IN summaries
LEAN IN — WOMAN, WORK, AND THE WILL TO LEAD
(p.29) This phenomenon of capable people being plagued by self-doubt has a name — the imposter syndrome.
(p.33) Make both an intellectual and an emotional adjustment.
(p.34) ”fake it till you feel it” strategy
(p.55) The importance of pursuing a meaningful life
(p.55) A long-term dream does not have to be realistic or even specific. It may reflect the desire to work in a particular field or to travel throughout the world. But even a vague goal can provide direction, a far-off guidepost to move forward.
(p.58) The only one criterion mattered when picking up a job — fast growth.
(p.58) “If you’re offered a seat on a rocket ship, you don’t ask what seat.”
(p.59) Just as I believe everyone should have a long-term dream, I also believe everyone should have an eighteen-month plan.
Typically, my eighteen-month plan sets goals on two fronts. First and most important, I set targets for what my team can accomplish. Second, I try to set more personal goals for learning new skills in the next eighteen months.
(p.60) Trying to overcorrect is a great way to find middle ground.
(p.61) Of course, there are times in life when being risk averse is a good thing. But in business, being risk averse can result in stagnation.
(p.61) At times, staying in the same functional area and in the same organization creates inertia and limits opportunity to expand. Seeking out diverse experiences is useful preparation for leadership.
(p.62) Women need to shift from thinking “I’m not ready to do that” to thinking I want to do that — and I’ll learn by doing it.”
(p.63) Taking risks, choosing growth, challenging ourselves, and asking for promotions (with smiles on our faces, of course) are all important elements of managing a career. (p.63) Alice Walker, “The most common way people give up their power is by thinking they don’t have any.”
(p.65) Even media mogul Oprah Winfrey, who has taught so much to an entire generation, admits that she feels uncomfortable when someone asks her to be their mentor. She once explained, “I mentor when I see something and say, ‘I want to see that grow.’ “
(p.68) ”Excel and you will get a mentor.”
(p.69) To figure out what I wanted to do before I went to see the people who had the ability to hire me.
(p.69) Mentorship is often a more reciprocal relationship than it may appear, especially in situations where people are already working at the same company.
(p.71) Using a mentor’s time to validate feelings may help psychologically, but it’s better to focus on specific problems with real solutions.
(p.71) Asking for input is not a sign of weakness but often the first step to finding a path forward.
(p.77) Authentic communication is not always easy, but it is the basic for successful relationships at home and real effectiveness at work.
(p.79) Great leadership is “conscious” leadership.
(p.79) Effective communication starts with the understanding that there is my point of view(my truth) and someone else’s point of view(his truth).
(p.79) Truth is also better served by using simple language.
(p.80 )When communicating hard truths, less is often more.
(p.80) The ability to listen is as important as the ability to speak. — mirror each other, which means restating the other person’s point before responding to it. (p.83) ”How can I do better?” “What am I doing that I don’t know?” “What an I not doing that I don’t see? These questions can lead to so many benefits.
(p.84) The upside of painful knowledge is so much greater than the downside of blissful ignorance.
(p.108) ”It’s not about biology, but about consciousness.”
(p.126) ”Done is better than perfect.”
(p.126) Aimimg for perfection causes frustration at best and paralysis at worst.
(p.126) Norah Ephron, “It will be a little messy, but embrace the mess. It will be complicated, but rejoice in the complications. It will not be anything like what you think it will be like, but surprises are good for you. And don’t be frightened: you can always change your mind.”
(p.127) Counterintuitively, long-term success at work often depends on not trying to meet every demand placed on us. The best way to make room for both life and career is to make choices deliberately — to set limits and stick to them.
(p.140) Stanford professor Jennifer Aaker’s work shows that setting obtainable goals is key to happiness. Instead of perfection, we should aim for sustainable and fulfilling.
(p.140) If I had to embrace a definition of success, it would be that success is making the best choices we can…and accepting them.
(p.150) We need to talk and listen and debate and refute and instruct and learn and evolve.
(p.156) “Don’t be afraid to ask.”
(p.158) “Leadership is about making others better as a result of your presence and making sure that impact lasts in your absence.”
(p.159) “ A feminist is someone who believes in social, political, and economic equality of the sexes.”
(p.159) As Harvard Business School has demonstrated, the result of creating a more equal environment will not just be better performance for our organizations, but quite likely greater happiness for all.
(p.172) Dream big, forge a path through the obstacles, and achieve our full potentials. Set our own goals and reach for them with gusto.
(p.173) We need to be grateful for what we have but dissatisfied with the status quo. This dissatisfaction spurs the charge for change. We must keep going.
Overall, this book is quite inspiring!
It gives us courage, confidence, and hope.
Not just for female, but for all who’s in pursuit of meaningful lives.