Balance — It Is What It Is

by Iris L. Kitching

Sometimes I wonder why so much is said about having balance in our lives. From when we were young and walked on the balance beam in gym class, we learned to keep our eyes open, look straight ahead and walk carefully from one end to the other, without falling off, of course. On the seesaw or teeter totter at the playground, we were either way up in the air gazing down at a friend at the opposite end or way down at the ground looking up, but always trying to get equalized so we’d both be in balance.

With either example, no one considered that countless kids were klutzes at performing while others were athletically inclined. And what about the perfectly round balance ball that helped our core body muscles become stronger? How was balance attained when some of us couldn’t even sit on it without falling off, much less attempt to exercise with it. Our body composition — skinny, muscular, average size, or very pudgy — was never taken into consideration, so we weren’t on an even keel to begin with. And thus, we felt like failures, or were called failures, more times than not.

And what about life in general? The playing fields are uneven from the very start and rarely change. There are rich or poor; short or tall; intelligent or intellectually challenged; up or down; black or white or any color, or combination of colors, in between. We never truly find balance, not even in our personal lives, where the weight of what we aim to do is different for each of us and changes moment to moment, day to day, year to year. It seems balance is not to be found!

Balance is not something you find, it’s something you create. Jana Kingsford, Author

Aha! That’s the secret! We create balance. Perhaps someone should proclaim this loudly to the world. With instability, inequality, and imbalance everywhere, we all would be better off to know and accept that it’s different for each of us. I now understand why I never fit in as a child, and as an adult I still don’t. I don’t compare myself to others. Don’t get me wrong here. There’s no harm in admiring another person, or even giving them accolades, but never to covet their way of getting balance (or anything else in life) or copy it to do exactly as they did.

I’ve learned to create balance in my brain, focus on what I need to do — in moderation -and ignore what society claims as “right”for getting it. This is what gives me balance. I may trip myself up on occasion and need to reassess, or refocus to get back on track, but I won’t chase balance down. I won’t cripple my endeavors or deem myself a failure by another’s standards. I have not done that in 68 years and don’t plan to start now.

The foundation stones for a balanced success are honesty, character, integrity, faith, love and loyalty. Zig Ziglar. I believe that! Balance. It is what it is! My parents instilled these qualities in me, and more. I determine to use them everyday to create balance in my life in my own way and in my own time.

This is my Day 14 post for the 30 Day Writing Challenge in the Speak Write Now Community.

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