My Pet Peeve
by Iris L. Kitching
Okay, I admit it. I have a pet peeve that has caused me to dislike some people. Dislike is the word I use on a good day; hate is on a bad day. Yes, I know hate is a strong word. But, I absolutely HATE dealing with people who interrupt conversations at will on the job and at church. Whenever this happens, especially with people who consistently do this, I’m pissed off. To me, people who interrupt people as if there is a dire emergency, are often rude, arrogant, and disrespectful. They are typically people who need to be recognized simply because they show up. They have no regard for anyone else but themselves.
Manners are nothing more than thinking about somebody else. Letitia Baldrige
It’s understandable to have a pressing need that requires talking with someone immediately in an emergency. A simple “Excuse me, I’m sorry to interrupt but I need a few words with Mr./Mrs. So and So” to all in the conversation interrupted should suffice. After that a polite person, i.e. one with good manners, would wait to be acknowledged. Or an “Excuse me Mr./Mrs. So and So, I’m sorry to interrupt but I’ll need to talk with you as soon as possible.” At that point, an acknowledgement asking if the person could wait a few minutes might be in order.
Typically, however, a person dashes in and abruptly greets a person already engaged in a conversation, the one they wish to talk with. The other person or persons are completely ignored as the intruder talks without any recognition or care that an exchange was previously in progress. And then this person speaks for as long as they want. I find this reprehensible.
As I see it, for one who has something to say to bogard their way into a conversation is flagrant disregard for others. It’s done solely to push a personal agenda which, in most cases, clearly could have waited a few more minutes, a day, a week. Even children are taught from an early age not to interrupt, to wait their turn, to say excuse me, and to understand that they cannot always speak right away. Adults who don’t model proper manners should own up to their actions and be ashamed of their own behavior.
The hardest job kids face today is learning good manners without seeing any. Fred Astair
I personally have a problem being aggressive or confronting people in general, ever since my younger years when there were people who were abusive and intimidating. As an adult, I don’t like to cause undue tension with people I have to work with or fellowship with weekly. But, some clueless people don’t get it, they don’t want to get it, or they don’t see anything wrong with their actions. At some point, I will speak up and clear the air, hopefully without anger or hate. I suppose I will say as nicely as possible (on a good day), “Excuse me. I was talking. I’ll be through in a minute or two, so please honor my time as I finish my conversation.” On a bad day, “What is wrong with you? You always interrupt! Go, just, go…now. You won’t die if you have to wait!” And then, let the chips fall where they may. I believe it’s past time to stop pampering people who just have no manners and no respect for others! Drops mic and walks away.
A man’s manners are a mirror in which he shows his portrait. Johann Wolfgang von Goethe
This is my Day 28 Post for the 30 Day Writing Challenge in the Speak Write Now Community.