It is holding us back.

Fear is a bad adviser. This is a saying that we are exposed to at an early age. Because by believing in a monster under your bed, you are forced to lie in bed with your parents. Been there, done that.

Fear comes in very different forms of expression around the corner. No longer am I afraid of monsters or other critters in my bedroom and I even have my fear of spiders somewhat under control. And yet, I am confronted several times a week with a fear that I almost dare say, am not the only one who suffers from it.

Because everyone these days seems to be afraid. Scary. Can’t. Not good enough. These are words that are commonly used in a conversation about dreams. Out of your comfort zone steps, go for what makes you happy, choose your own happiness, work on your dreams and take your future into your own hands. It seems almost go hand in hand with fear, whilst it should be accompanied with joy, excitement and a tickle in your stomach.

If I live without me being guided by fear, doubt or more of these destructive thoughts, I’m going to focus on what I want in life. I notice that the ideas just start running. The time racing past the words on my paper seem to flow naturally from my pen and all kinds of exciting plans are being born in my head. And not only that. My body is participating enthusiastically. The butterflies in my stomach flutter at such sporadic wonderful spead in my belly, and a smile, that out of nowhere strikes out of my face with excitement. Inside, I feel the power flow and confidence in myself, which I haven’t felt in a very long time.

Why we are guided by fear? Why we believe in our ignorance, mistakes, and we can tell endlessly about all our failures, but at the same time, we let fear take over our goals and dreams?

With the entrance of this new year, I made myself a promise. And that is to no longer be guided by fears, but to believe in my own abilities.

And so I watch the fear in my bright eyes, and I fight against myself with the best weapon I have in my possession — positivity and confidence. Arguably, the two most important tools in choosing personal happiness and the achievement of set targets. Because deep down, I feel the butterflies flutter and I know damn well what I want and what makes me happy.

Irma Laliashvili is a freelance writer and journalist based in Denver, Colorado. Her writing can be found on her website and Medium. You can also follow her on Twitter and Instagram for the latest updates.

Writer and journalist. Interested in fashion, art, culture, travel, women’s issues, human rights, mental health. Email: irmawriter@gmail.com irmalaliashvili.com

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