BLOG POST: Relationship = Money.

It is not appropriate to say relationship is equivalent to make but it is true. Relationships gives opportunities which leads to different outcomes - business deals, partnership, sales , marriage and friendship. I have conciously and intentionally build relationships over the past 13 years. I am young I don't want to make hyperbolical claims. But you get it. These relationships were built purely on adding value to other people. I never knew I will need help in the future. The best time to build a relationship is when you don't need it. It takes time to build trust. Trust comes from overtime of vulnerability and deposits.
The thing is with time and maturity, it takes a huge efforts and confidence to form new relationships. Relationship is built upon time and communication. We need time in other to simulate communicate ; we don't have much of it. So we neglect it. I really spend time thinking about how grateful I am to have spent time building relationships which has not helped me in my life and all the work I do. To have friends who can say, " No problem when you give them your problem." It is joy unspeakable.
With communication mediums having turned into the Internet , it is very easy to neglect how all relationships are built ; time and communication. It is possible to assume that someone is okay because you have seen them on Facebook. But relationships goes far more than the Internet. The Internet is a machine which we have built as humans to connect with one another and to eliminate geographical barries. Meaning , now that we have eliminated the geographical barries, we have to go back and evaluate what create a relationship and use those tools to build. Human nature doesn't change. We still need love . We still need variety. We still need contribution. We still need growth. Once we have shelter and food , we long for a meaning.
We all know the adage ,you are an average of five people you spend your time with or your networth is determined by your network. It is true. Every time I stayed with people who lost money, I lost money. Everything I stayed with people who love ( obsessily lustful) women , I also was caught. Everytime I stayed with people who complained, I complained. Everytime I stayed with people who doesn't pray, I stopped praying. So, we don't necessarily build relationships, we attract relationships. We like what others are or maybe have. What lasts is who someone is than what they have.
I look back and see the opportunities I have received, and how they came. They came from God through people. I think this is why the writes of Hebrews say, " Follow peace with all men." We are social beings. We cannot imagine how to live without being connected with other people. So, the kind of people you have in your life represents who you are ; unconsciously or consciously. None of us can bare to live with people who have different views about life than ours if we have a choice to change them. Why do people divorce?
In this kind of society and economy, if you want to win ( whatever that mean for you) build authentic relationships infont. People cannot be fooled for a very long time. Life is long and opportunities are few. You want to be there for people as much as you want them to be there for you. The key element is to build without expectations. And if you build with expectations, you will be frustrated. People are strange. They don't do what you think they do what they want. The best present you can give them is yourself. Even better, your better self.
If you want to build relationships don't ask things. People get annoyed to be asked favours by strangers. I was so surprised to be asked R2 airtime via inbox from someone who don't know me. They have never liked, commented, or shared my work. It is strange how people want to reap where they soweth not. As much as I love people and want to help. I am a person. I need help. I cannot do everything. The are some names which I cannot forget when I log in to Facebook platform , why, because they given me value upfront without asking. I thank you.
Don't direct message to someone and ask but to give. When you give you open a gateway to receiving. I want to challenge you with the below question.
Q: What can I give every day? Advice, money , clothes which I don't use, and other.
We can all give. Money moves on the hands of people. There is not such as the market. There is only people. If you connect to the market, people ; money will move through you. Build a network that will enable money to follow to you.
