Self-care is more than facials.

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Photo by Noah Buscher on Unsplash

It’s an ubiquitous principle of life.

In personal finance, if you don’t pay yourself first, no one else will.

After you get through paying all your bills and other expenses, paying loans and subscriptions, buying “essentials” and gifts for others, you’ll have no money left for investments in yourself.

If you don’t treat yourself, you can’t expect others to be willing to treat you.

If you don’t take the first moments of your day to work on yourself, to enrich your soul and mind and body, they will be given to other people, other responsibilities, other things.

But when you…


#2: You talk too much sh*t.

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Sofia Pozzi on Behance

“I don’t know why I’m feeling so negative lately,” she said for the third day that week. “It’s so annoying.”

This was sandwiched in a conversation about friends and work between a friend (I’ll refer to her as Amber) and me.

This time, I noticed that all she said was just that. The topic changed immediately. She didn’t really think about why she was feeling negative or what she could do to feel positive. I suppose she was just interested in trying to let it pass on its own.

She didn’t want to take control of her emotional destiny, but…


It’s totally because of China…not any other reason.

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Photo by Kon Karampelas on Unsplash

In the past week, President Trump and the Supreme Court have announced that they’re considering banning the social media platform TikTok in the U.S. The alleged reason is that it’s a Chinese-owned app and the app is stealing all of its users’ data.

But that’s probably not the real reason.

India banned the app last week (along with other Chinese apps) because it was a “threat to sovereignty and integrity.

Trump hates TikTok apparently because it’s stealing our data. …


How often do you say it?

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Image: CNN

You’ve seen the above image before. You don’t remember where, or when, but you have.

It’s the most iconic photograph of the 20th century.

But do you know the story? Do you know that the man in the photo was on a date, left the woman he was with, and ran over to grab and non-consensually kiss a stranger?

You’ve seen the photo before, and you’d easily recognize it as being so famous, but you never took the time to learn the story.

Is it still a cute photo?

Picture two people. They’re both reading a personal growth book, like…


WRITING

Make time your friend and watch your word count soar.

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In high school, I took the course AP English Language and Composition, where the goal was to formulate essays quickly and efficiently. Our main assignments were rigid, timed essays, each with the same criteria:

  • follow the prompt in a 5-paragraph essay (about 700 words)
  • complete the essay in 40 minutes
  • write on paper with a dark ink pen
  • include a thesis, cite sources, use examples, and have easy flow between paragraphs

Although this method was intimidating at first, I found that under the time constraint and the 5-paragraph quota, I not only finished but often ended up with an essay…


RELATIONSHIPS

Read the room like a boss with 눈치.

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Photo by Etienne Boulanger on Unsplash

Have you ever been in a situation where you realize that you’re unsure of how to act properly — maybe in a group, a meeting, or even a conversation?

The Korean superpower — besides amazingly fresh food, iconic fashions, and addictive Kpop music — is a magic word known as 눈치 or the romanized nunchi.

Nunchi is the subtle art of listening and gauging another person’s mood — essentially a form of emotional intelligence. This is done through interpreting subtleties like body language, mood, facial expression and tone.

And it can be used to your advantage when you’re looking to…


What to do when you hit the content wall.

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Ross McCampbell on Behance

“Assume that you have a million words inside you that are absolute rubbish and you need to get them out before you get to the good ones. And if you get there early, that’s great.”

— Neil Gaiman

I have too many stories in my drafts — it stems from the habit of getting an idea and then immediately looking to turn it into a story.

I take the first steps; I put down a possible title, subtitle, and image. Sometimes I get distracted and wind up one hour later on Behance looking for the *perfect* illustration.

Sometimes I sputter…


What makes a timeless woman?

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“How to Steal a Million”

The female protagonist in many an old American movie — portrayed often by Audrey Hepburn, Marilyn Monroe, Grace Kelly, or Ingrid Bergman, to name a few — is a very unique sort of woman.

It wasn’t just the time or place in which she lived that made her special, though. It was the way she lived her life and presented herself to the world. If there is anything I’ve learned from watching them in action so much, it is that.

They weren’t perfect — in fact, many of these characters were sometimes problematic in their respective films, depending on the…


What I’ve learned & how much I’ve earned.

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Photo by David Klein on Unsplash

Another Medium story about Medium? It can’t be.

After two months of writing under the Partner Program, I’m positively surprised by how far I’ve come.

The first two months of quarantine, I admit I accomplished little. Other than watching unhealthy amounts of Criminal Minds and reading a little more than usual, I was unproductive on another level.

Then, towards the beginning of May, I joined Medium and began publishing articles. By the end of the month, I had accrued a little over two dollars and had written about 17 stories.

Now, a month later, I have over a thousand followers…

Isabella Lahoue

Student & author. Writing about personal growth, books & poetry.

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