26 Things I Believe In as I Turned 26
Wayne Dyer said that if gratitude is your only prayer, that will suffice. I realise that our perceptions change as we grow, and here are 26 things I believe in as I’m turning 26.
1. Read book
Forget about the greatest books of all time or must-read books for entrepreneurs. Read whatever that interest you even when it means comic books. One book lead to another, at the end of the day, you will gain more and more to become who you want to be.
2. Write everyday
Writing helps me to crystalise thousands of tangling thoughts, turning them into words and structured paragraph. If you chose to share your story, do not let words of judgment tell you if you are worthy, because your story belongs to people who need it.
3. Real education starts after school
Education equips us with tool to do a job well but sometimes we have not explored enough in school to know what we can really excel at. Mastery requires taking risk to try new things in order to find things that you can devote your life to.
Focus on your breath, calm your mind, feel your surrounding with a sense of awe. A clear, positive mind helps you make better choices and navigate negativity that comes your way.
5. Be in the present
Our worries are projection of future events based on past knowledge. All we have is ‘now’, the present moment, and we have all it takes to change the next moment.
We come with nothing and leave with nothing, everything in between is a blessing. Think about wonderful things in life, notice how much we have and be grateful for all tangible and intangible assets around us.
‘Acknowledging the good that you already have in your life is the foundation for all abundance.’ Eckhart Tolle
I live by the mantra taught by Wayne Dyer that manifests love to people or things that hurt us by saying ’from now on, I only send you love’. There is no fight when we let go and send love. We free our mind to live to the fullest when we stop fighting or blaming.
8. Exercise and eat well
The many benefits of exercising and eating well are universal truths that need no further explanation. Remember that every single cell in our body is made up of what we consume, love your body and choose wisely.
9. Set your standard for greatness
What makes a person great? One who builds a billion dollar company, one who teaches in rural area, one who fights for human right, or one who lives in the most extravagant mansion? Find your own role model and strive to be more like him or her every day.
10. Do the same for happiness
Set your own standard of happiness and don’t let anyone dictate what we need to have in order to feel happy. Happiness is about being healthy, spending time with loved ones, connecting to nature, creating value in your own unique way, being able to love and to learn.
Travelling requires you to adapt and accept new things. It is about getting accustomed to uncertainties, broadening your world view and exploring possibilities in life. When we escape everything designed for tourist and live like a local, we will realise that we do not need to be financially abundance to gain life experiences that we desire.
12. Stop trying and just be
Sometimes our vehicles to fulfilment change over time as we gain more experience and knowledge. In the sea of infinite option, decision becomes harder – what is my life about? I’ve learnt to make peace with myself being a mindful observer of life and allow things to come when time is right. Arrange the pieces come your way, you will turn out fine.
13. Ask question
We only learn new thing when we ask new question. Peter Thiel said that there are still secret in this world. Do not always take thing as it is, because if rules or theories are set by people, why couldn’t they be changed?
14. Explore horizontally
We are not defined by what we do, where we live, or education we receive. Always expand your knowledge and keep growing in life. The unique ability that separates human being from other animals is learning; trust that your neuron will connects dots as you acquire new information.
15. Love people
See yourself in others and stay humble, because everyone has a unique story that can teach you a thing or two about life. Compile wisdom of those who come to your life, appreciate encounters that make you a better person every day.
From travelling to workplace, smiling is a powerful currency to navigate the world. It dissolves conflict, opens people heart, and spreads kindness. When the choice is yours, even on a bad day, always choose to be kind and smile.
‘Be kind, for everyone you meet is fighting a hard battle.’ Plato
Giving is doing something that improves others’ life besides your own. It makes you less miserable while spreading goodness in the world. No matter how small your effort might seem in this big vast world, it will matter because you make it matters.
18. Real friends are scarce
But they give you abundance in life. They see the best and the worst of you and never leave. One catch up with a real friend beats 10 parties with 1000 acquaintances.
19. Seek first to understand
Most people do not listen with the intent to understand; they listen with the intent to reply. I learned to visualise left brain processing facts and direct right brain to gauge the emotion behind facts. Why does somebody say something in a certain way? Listen with intention to receive deep communication of another human soul.
20. Family is the best thing you ever have
They never give up on you, they never stop loving you. There is no other way to treat your family besides love.
21. Do not judge
Good or bad, sane or insanity, beauty or ugliness; they are all our own projection based on what is ‘socially acceptable’. Eliminate your immediate perception and get to the reason behind everything.
I used to think that people use Tinder have no social life. Then I met my now boyfriend on Tinder. Who am I to judge?
22. Say yes
Say yes to opportunities and challenge your comfort zone. Believe that you will do whatever it takes because you care enough. There is a popular saying that goes ‘fake it until you make it’; you will be transformed the day you make it.
23. Say no
Having a clear sense of true self, identify things or people that suck your energy and activities that are counterproductive. It is okay to be kind to ourselves and not be a person people think we should be.
24. Build Habits
Human is creature of habit. Stephen Covey said, ‘our character is basically a composite of our habits. Because they are consistent, often unconscious patterns, they constantly, daily, express our character.’
What do you do every day from the moment you wake up until you reach your work station? That tells a lot about who you are. Built habits to be the kind of character you want to be.
25. Appreciate nature
I am always in awe with nature seeing how perfect everything thrive in harmony without external force; and it convince me that whatever problem I have in life, nature has its way to work it out.
26. Magic words
Sorry, please forgive me, thank you, I love you.
Say it without hesitation; say it because you mean it. It’s not as hard as you think to make peace with yourself and the world.
To the years to come
‘Wisdom is knowing I am nothing, love is knowing I am everything; and between the two my life moves. ‘ Nisargadatta Maharaj.
Breath in, breath out, be in the present - that’s life.