It is okay

Because it is

It is okay. Because it is.

If we sit down for a moment and become aware of our breathing. When we are passionately creating our art piece, when we are totally submerged into a math equation, when we are planning how we can expand your business, when you are reading a book and you are inside that book, when you are running in the park with your dog, when you are meeting your friend having a fun time, when you are..when you are..

When you are, in those moments it doesn’t matter if your budget is low, if you have a new pimple, if you gained weight, if you have been hurt a long time ago, if somebody thinks bad of you, if you did the right or wrong thing back then, if you think of yourself worthy or not. It all doesn’t matter when you are in that moment, not letting your mind wander off to “other things”.

Imagine you are sitting at a table. You can sit there and feel the sun shining in, the light breeze, the prettiness & perfectness of the flower on the table. You have a smile on your face and all feels well.

Or, now imagine, you can start thinking about last week, what happened, who said what, why, what did you do wrong, did you deserve that, how could he/she/they do/not do/say/not say etc, what to do now, will it work and on and on. The mind truly has no boundaries, it can go anywhere and everywhere. And the thing is, does is ever really do any good to drench oneself in those thoughts? Does it make us feel good? It does not. And we still do it.

There is this saying that goes something like “A minute of anger is 60 seconds of lost happiness”. And it is true. The minute is the minute it’s there either way but we do have control of what minute we live. What minute we choose to be in.

Let’s say somebody hurt me in the past. Maybe even mollested. Maybe even as a child. It left scars in me and fears that may lead me to act in certain ways. I keep reminding myself of that story over and over. Re-living everything for years. In a way, bathing in that pain, in unavoidable self-pity, not accepting of what has happened and is done, reasons why I need to be treated in a special way, why I can allow myself to act in certain ways..Shit yes it hurts to get hurt. Unexplainable things that we simply can’t make sense of happen. Everyday. Just as beautiful things happen. It just is that way, both have to be there in life. Shit happens and then..but then it is up to us what to make of it. We have all the power. And the choices are clear.

A. Keep bathing in that self-pity pond, making oneself feel bad and hurt over and over about something that is truly only in one’s mind.

Pain is meant to be a one time thing. We touch fire for the first time when we are young, we recognize it is hot, it hurts and we do not keep putting our hand in fire again and again. So, if we got hurt there may have been something we can learn from that, but we didn’t & instead chose to tell our stories how we once got burned with fire, how much it hurted, in detail, getting sad & scared everytime we do so. And while we sail along that messy sea of past hurt we take along whoever we can take with us. Knowingly or unknowingly. Of course it can help a lot to talk to somebody with a heart-connection, a friend or family member at hard times but it is absolutely irresponsible to throw around with one’s shit whenever they get a chance to do so. When somebody tells such stories with a negative energy behind it, words are transmitters, it goes over to others depending on how much they are open-hearted. So bad for oneself & people around that person.

B. Just try to see what “good” was in it for yourself. I promise, there is always something. And if the hurt was big, the bigger the good for you as well. Lucky us! There is a quote from Shakespeare: “There is nothing either good or bad, but thinking makes it so.” Now, how true is that. If we keep thinking about something in a bad way, it will always stay like that. That is what you are creating so what else do you expect? We need to become more aware of our power. We are not slaves to our thoughts & bad feelings. If only we can become aware of the magnificence of our body to start with, the whole prefect system that has been build into our bodies, cells, everything is working perfectly, simple, and yet so complex, science with numbers still has not understood many many things of our bodies. So, we are in this body that’s the physical aspect but we also have feelings and thoughts. The things we don’t see. Spiritual dimension. I have a feeling there are three main dimensions. The physical, the thoughts, and the spiritual. The trio we see everywhere. 42. All connected.

Ok looks like I drifted off here…

The point is, if you can train your physical body & build muscles you can do the same with the mind. All that is needed is some try & fail experiences. Sometimes we try out a sport and we love it, some other sport we might not feel so enthusiastic about. And it is okay that way. What works great for one might not work for another. There is no set answer for anything. And that is okay. Actually, there is only one way for one person. That person’s way. And there is no right or wrong. It is all moving toward the good direction. Even if sometimes we can not believe that in a situation that seems very bad anything good is in for us. Don’t we often look back and see that later? And that is the ultimatum. Ultimately, the person we are right now is the newest version of us. Just like we update our computers we keep updating ourselves constantly. And we have the choice.

So then, it is our choice if we choose to be in negativity or positivity. It doesn’t matter what is happening to us, who does whatever to us, if we can keep our inner “It is okay” it will be okay because that is what we will be creating. Of course if we have been in the “It is not okay” zone for a long time more and more not okay’s have piled up and they will only be removed once we become really okay with what we believed to be not okay. And the more we okay things, the calmer we become in any situation.

If you read this far, wow, I didn’t anybody would read it! But if you did, please let me know what you think feel of this. We are here to share thoughts, feelings, ideas etc.

All I wanted to write is that IT IS OKAY, really okay, always, no matter what is happening, all we need to do is just shift our point of view. Life is meant to be simple. And maybe it is so unbelievably simple that it seems too simple to be true.